Lesbian Coming Out Stories

When I came out, it was one of the most emotional times of my life. I was 13, and I was hanging out with my mom in my room and she saw my self-harm scars. After repeatedly and worriedly asking why, I gathered the courage and told her I thought I was lesbian. I started crying, then she started crying; it was a big mess overall. But in the end, my mother and I had created a bond no other two human beings could share. We’re closer than ever now, and I don’t regret a single bit of it.

When I came out to my best friend, I wrote it down in the sand and I quickly rubbed it out but she saw what I wrote. She said it was just a phase. I told her again 3 years later and she accepted me. (15/Lesbian)

When I came out I was watching Ellen and my mom came in and was like, “Ohh it’s my favorite lesbian,” and I said, “I thought I was your favorite lesbian,” and she looked at me and said, “Oh,” and then sat down and watched with me.

When I came out to my mom, she was completely shocked. I told her I needed to tell her something and she said, “Oh no, are you pregnant, doing drugs, drinking?” Literally naming everything except “are you gay?” and when I finally told her, she asked me why I didn’t tell her earlier. I felt so comfortable. (F/17/Lesbian)

When I came out I was so nervous. I at first came out to my 4 closest friends and 3 of them were really accepting. I came out to my mom, stepdad, and brother today and they all thought I was joking at first. I sat down for a long conversation with my mum and now I think we’re all happy. I’m not completely sure to be honest but I’m happy as I am! (She/her/13/Lesbian)

When I came out, my parent believed that since I was gay, I had to be transgender, so they told me I couldn’t change my name and that I would always be a girl. They told my other parent and they both talked to me. It’s pretty awkward telling your parents after a long lecture that you’re just a lesbian.

When I came out, it was New Year’s Day. I was sobbing the night before, I was so scared. When I told my mom, she was very calm about it and told me she had suspected it. It went a lot better than I expected, and my parents now completely accept me as a lesbian. They’ll say “your future partner” instead of “your future boyfriend” and that just makes me so happy, and my mental health has gotten so much better since then. I just want to tell any closeted LGBT people reading this that you are brave, and that sometimes the anticipation is the worst part.

When I came out, it was because I was talking to a friend that always says, “You look like Emily from PLL, but she’s a lesbian and you’re not,” and that time, she said, “You look like Emily” and didn’t mention the lesbian part, so later, when we were talking about sexuality, I told her, “You know who else likes girls?” And when she asked, I said, “Me.” She told me she already knew it because she saw me liking lesbian posts in ig and then saw my WhatsApp status that said, “Love is not a choice.”

When I came out to my close friends I was 14. They had a positive answer and told me that they already knew and their mums too. It was quietly weird. (16/Lesbian)