Lesbian Coming Out Stories

When I came out it was to my 10-year-old daughter. What precipitated it was that she confessed to me that she had a crush on a female friend and was confused by her feelings. I explained to her that is natural to have same-sex attractions and when she asked how I knew, I told her that I am homosexual but I denied that part of myself until my late thirties. I made her promise that if she comes to terms with any orientation she is that she doesn’t wait as long as I did (Rachel, 46/Lesbian)

When I came out was yesterday at a party. I had come out to my close friends, but that’s all. Yesterday we were at a party and I was really, really drunk and when I saw the girl I like I yelled, “I want to f*ck you!” Then people started asking me if I was a lesbian and I just said yes.

When I came out it was first to one of my best friends who funny enough I made through our mutual love for Dan and Phil. Funny enough she came out as bi to me and I came out as lesbian to her. I used to have a crush on her but I got over it when she said she more into guys then girls. I now have a very loving girlfriend who I can’t wait to meet (sadly we are long distance ;-;) (F/14/Lesbian, she/her, you can call me jay)

When I came out as a lesbian my mom asked me if it was because of peer pressure. It’s been almost two years and she hasn’t talked about it since.

When I came out, it was one of the most emotional times of my life. I was 13, and I was hanging out with my mom in my room and she saw my self-harm scars. After repeatedly and worriedly asking why, I gathered the courage and told her I thought I was lesbian. I started crying, then she started crying; it was a big mess overall. But in the end, my mother and I had created a bond no other two human beings could share. We’re closer than ever now, and I don’t regret a single bit of it.

When I came out to my best friend, I wrote it down in the sand and I quickly rubbed it out but she saw what I wrote. She said it was just a phase. I told her again 3 years later and she accepted me. (15/Lesbian)

When I came out I was watching Ellen and my mom came in and was like, “Ohh it’s my favorite lesbian,” and I said, “I thought I was your favorite lesbian,” and she looked at me and said, “Oh,” and then sat down and watched with me.

When I came out to my mom, she was completely shocked. I told her I needed to tell her something and she said, “Oh no, are you pregnant, doing drugs, drinking?” Literally naming everything except “are you gay?” and when I finally told her, she asked me why I didn’t tell her earlier. I felt so comfortable. (F/17/Lesbian)

When I came out I was so nervous. I at first came out to my 4 closest friends and 3 of them were really accepting. I came out to my mom, stepdad, and brother today and they all thought I was joking at first. I sat down for a long conversation with my mum and now I think we’re all happy. I’m not completely sure to be honest but I’m happy as I am! (She/her/13/Lesbian)

When I came out, my parent believed that since I was gay, I had to be transgender, so they told me I couldn’t change my name and that I would always be a girl. They told my other parent and they both talked to me. It’s pretty awkward telling your parents after a long lecture that you’re just a lesbian.