Lesbian Coming Out Stories

When I came out, it was to a few friends at first. I also came out as bisexual then. They were all super supportive and loving. Once I got to college and thought about dating, I realized I was solely thinking about dating women, so I shot a text to my friends to update them on the change. (They were all still super supportive!). This semester ends in about 3 weeks, and I plan to come out to my parents when I get home. They’re amazing parents and I don’t doubt that they’ll be okay with my sexuality, but I know they’re going to be really confused because I’ve had boyfriends in the past. Wish me luck! (F/18/Lesbian)

When I came out, I had already come out as “Bisexual” two years before when I thought my reality was that. When I realized that I’m gay, I talked with a close friend and she gave me some advices. The next day my mom was asking me, “If you’re Bi, why do you only date women?” And I told her I’m a homo. She wasn’t surprised at all. In the same week I came out officially as a lesbian on my Twitter and posted the same thing on Instagram as well. Two weeks ago I came out to my grandparents and they’re still trying to accept it. (F/17/Lesbian)

When I came out, first I thought I was bisexual. But with growing crushes on girls, no longer boys, it was apparent that I was lesbian. During a program, we played a game where we put anonymous slips of paper into a box responding to the prompt: “If people really knew me, they would know…” I put: If people really knew me, they would know that I’m lesbian and scared to come out. Ever since, people have tried to guess who it was, but no one except my very close friends knows that the anonymous gay is me 🙂 (F/13/Lesbian)

When I came out to my best friend we were 14. It was 3am and we were lying in my bed during a sleepover. I looked over and said, “I think I’m gay” really quietly and just started crying. She rolled over, said, “I know, I’m going to sleep.” We still laugh about it years later, especially because she just came out to me as bi. (F/18/Lesbian)

When I came out in 8th grade, it was to my mom. I sent her a text message saying that I was bi; we didn’t really talk about it. Eventually, I ended up going back to the closet. This year I figured out that I am lesbian and only my brother knows it. (F/17/Lesbian)

When I came out to my friend, I didn’t really come out. We were just talking and we slowly discovered together our sexuality. I guess I needed someone to help me understand myself. Now I’m a lesbian and she’s bi. (F/18/Lesbian)

When I came out I had known I wasn’t straight for a while, but had only admitted I was full-on lesbian a couple of months before. I was having a heart-to-heart conversation with my mum and she asked me what had been worrying me the past year, so I gave her some clues and she guessed, saying, “Well, I know you’re not taking drugs, so you might be wondering whether you like boys, or girls.” She said it really simply, it was super nice, and because of that I plucked up the courage to tell one of my closest friends, who is gay herself and just straight (ha…) up texted her, “I just came out to my Mum.” She replied… “Out of what?” and listed many options, about 15 of them, ranging from “the closet” to “a tuba.” (F/Lesbian)

When I came out it was very unexpected. I’d told maybe 7 of my closest friends and definitely not my parents. I said about a year beforehand to a bi friend (we came out to each other and I have a massive crush on her but haven’t said) that I would never lie about my sexuality and I stuck to that. This girl was going round the classroom asking if we were lesbian (all-girl school) and I was the last person to ask of course so I said yes! I’d expected the rumours to spread but so far no one has said anything. It’s so relieving for everyone to know. Not my mum, though; she is abusive and I live alone with her so I’ll tell her when I get married. (F/15/Lesbian)

When I came out to my older cousin (who is gay) I texted him the songs “Girls,” “Girls Like Girls,” “Same Love,” and a few others. He texted back, “Are you trying to tell me something?” Then he told me he loved me and told my mom for me. (F/15/Lesbian)

When I came out, I showed my mum a compilation of photos with writing up the top saying: “Which of these people are not a lesbian?” (Idk). She didn’t get it, so I told her, “No, Mum. I like girls.” She was quite supportive but did question me later saying that feelings can change (basically saying it was a phase) but it’s not. (F/Lesbian)