Lesbian Coming Out Stories

When I came out I went for a walk with my best friend who studies far away from our hometown, so we only meet a few times a year. We talked about the problems and dramas in her love life. Then all of a sudden she asked me about my love life and said that there does not happen anything. Then her next question was “Do you actually fall in love with men or women?” This question started a fight inside of me if I should tell the truth or lie to her. So I decided to say, “Women.” And then we continued our conversation as if nothing had happened. (F/20/Lesbian)

When I came out I played a guessing game with my friends and, eventually, one of them said, “Oh, so you’re gay.” Then I just said yes. They were all so supportive and some of them even said that they were honoured! Even though I am relieved I won’t come out to my family. Good luck! (F/11/Lesbian)

When I came out not too long ago, my parents were/are very supportive. At first, I started to like girls, but at the same time I sort of had an attraction to guys. As time went on, I discovered that I in fact liked girls. One night my mom and I were talking and she asked me if I had anyone I liked in school. I said no (which is true), and then told her that I actually liked girls, and I was super scared. I started crying because I thought she wouldn’t accept me. She did, and she hugged me while I cried. My friends are also super supportive and accepted it pretty much immediately. It was an emotional few days for me. :’) (F/13/Lesbian)

When I came out, I was 14, just a few weeks ago. I had already come out to a few close friends, who were fine with it, but I struggled with the idea of coming out to everyone else; I have an aunt and uncle who are homophobic, who were living with us at the time, and my best friend, from age 6, is extremely Catholic and has very one-sided views about LGBT people. I finally worked up my courage after about a year of being sure of my sexuality. It was painful to get the words out of my mouth; it felt like a dream, like someone else was saying the words. My parents were indifferent; they have not acknowledged the fact at all. My best friend has not spoken to me since, and neither have my aunt and uncle. (F/15/Lesbian)

When I came out, I was 16 in Year 12, but I had known since 13, and I told my friend I had a crush on someone. I was digging myself a hole because I had never talked about my crushes, so I dragged it out and was like, “Oh, I’m never gonna tell you.” Then I kept thinking about it in lessons. Then I ended up texting her on the bus when she was sitting right next to me ’cause I was too scared to tell her out loud. Then we talked about it and ate McDonald’s after. But it was the biggest weight off my chest. It’s going to be a long time before I come out to my family though. (F/17/Lesbian)

When I came out, my dad accepted me and he told me that he would love me no matter what. My mom is homophobic so I hadn’t told her yet. Three months later, my friend’s mom called my mom and outed me. My mom passed it off as a phase at first but when she learned that I had a girlfriend, she forced us to break up and now she pretends the whole thing never happened. She still plans my future with all the wrong pronouns. (F/13/Lesbian)

When I came out to my sister it was a little weird situation, because my sister made a joke about a girl from our soccer club, who is also a good friend of hers, and our coach. She said, “On this picture it looks as if they were a couple, but for real nobody knows if she falls for boys or girls, or do you know?” That was the moment where I first didn’t know what to say, because I did know it — after all, she’s been my girlfriend for over 3 months.  At first I wanted to lie to her but then I just told her, “As far as I know and hope she is a lesbian and I am also very sure about that, ’cause we are a couple already for over 3 months.” After that she was shocked at first, but not in a negative way and after a few seconds she came over and hugged me and told me that she was happy for me and also her. (F/20/Lesbian)