Lesbian Coming Out Stories

When I came out, my twin sister was the first person I told. I thought she would accept me for being who I am, but she started calling me a faggot and other mean words. She was yelling at me and said that I was going to hell. Being the loud person she is, my mother heard and rushed into our room. My twin said everything to her, and surprisingly my mother accepted me. I’m now a proud lesbian that is no longer hiding in the closet! My twin sister still hates me, but she is still stuck with me for at least four years more so I guess she has to get used to the fact that i like girls. (F/15/Lesbian)

When I came out to my mother as a lesbian I was fifteen. She didn’t say anything against it, but she wasn’t exactly accepting it. Once my best friend sent me a meme and it contained a girl that moaned. Me as a lesbian with full volume and an «unaccepting» mother had the worst panick attack ever. I heard my mother rush upstairs and busted open my door. She said: «Are you watching porn!?» and I freaked out and had to explain to her. I showed her the video and we shared a good laugh. I’m now 19 and live with my girlfriend and my mom is fully accepting me. (F/19/Lesbian)

When I came out to a girl at school, all I did was say “me too” when she said she liked girls. She asked if we could date and I said no. She asked again another day and I told her I would think about it. I wonder if I should go for it? (F/Lesbian)

When I came out to my mom, she told me it was a phase and a way to get attention. She then started talking about how she has good female friends, but she wouldn’t sleep with them, and that I’m just confused. I dropped the subject and she never said anything about it again. I came out to my friends, who were very supportive, and I know I’m queer, but since she is not ready to accept it I’m not planning to come out to my family until I’m 18 and I don’t live with them. But I’m glad I came out, even if some people won’t accept me for who I am. It’s easier dealing with being gay than keeping a secret all the time. (F/14/Lesbian)

When I came out I went for a walk with my best friend who studies far away from our hometown, so we only meet a few times a year. We talked about the problems and dramas in her love life. Then all of a sudden she asked me about my love life and said that there does not happen anything. Then her next question was “Do you actually fall in love with men or women?” This question started a fight inside of me if I should tell the truth or lie to her. So I decided to say, “Women.” And then we continued our conversation as if nothing had happened. (F/20/Lesbian)

When I came out I played a guessing game with my friends and, eventually, one of them said, “Oh, so you’re gay.” Then I just said yes. They were all so supportive and some of them even said that they were honoured! Even though I am relieved I won’t come out to my family. Good luck! (F/11/Lesbian)

When I came out not too long ago, my parents were/are very supportive. At first, I started to like girls, but at the same time I sort of had an attraction to guys. As time went on, I discovered that I in fact liked girls. One night my mom and I were talking and she asked me if I had anyone I liked in school. I said no (which is true), and then told her that I actually liked girls, and I was super scared. I started crying because I thought she wouldn’t accept me. She did, and she hugged me while I cried. My friends are also super supportive and accepted it pretty much immediately. It was an emotional few days for me. :’) (F/13/Lesbian)

When I came out, I was 14, just a few weeks ago. I had already come out to a few close friends, who were fine with it, but I struggled with the idea of coming out to everyone else; I have an aunt and uncle who are homophobic, who were living with us at the time, and my best friend, from age 6, is extremely Catholic and has very one-sided views about LGBT people. I finally worked up my courage after about a year of being sure of my sexuality. It was painful to get the words out of my mouth; it felt like a dream, like someone else was saying the words. My parents were indifferent; they have not acknowledged the fact at all. My best friend has not spoken to me since, and neither have my aunt and uncle. (F/15/Lesbian)