Lesbian Coming Out Stories

When I came out I came out to my friends over text as lesbian. They were all very supportive of me. I still haven’t come out to my family. I know that they will accept me, I just don’t my relationship to become weird. (F/13/Lesbian)

When I came out to myself I was seven. I knew that I liked girls but to me that was completely normal. When I turned 10 I did more research and found out I was lesbian. I still haven’t come out to my parents or my friends and I am extremely scared. But I understand what I am and am happy. (F/13/Lesbian)

When I came out, I was 19. My mother said she had a feeling when I told her, and she accepted everything about me. (She took that better than me being atheist.) It was the opposite for my dad. I came out to him last year, and he didn’t talk to me for a month; I was dead to him, as if I had died, as if he had “lost” me. One night he was super drunk and told me through my door that he missed me. It’s like nothing had happened now. He still wishes I would marry a man, but I’m going to stay true to my heart. If people ask I tell them, with a giant grin on my face. (F/21/Lesbian)

When I came out it wasn’t really a big thing. My classmate had been talking in chorus class about how pride month represented her. I came up to her the next day and asked her if she identified as lesbian. She said yes, then I told her I thought I might be lesbian too. She just hugged me. It was the best feeling. (F/12/Lesbian)

When I came out to a close friend, she seemed pretty supportive, but something seemed a bit off. Since then, every single time the idea of celebrity crushes or something is brought up, she always asks about mine, and always assumes that it’s a guy. Because of this I keep having to come out to her. It feels so invalidating. (F/16/Lesbian)

When I came out to my parents I had always said that I was a bisexual. I realized that I was actually gay though so I re-came out. From then on I had built up an understanding of sexuality and gender and I have come to terms with my sexuality and acceptance within my community. Basically I’m hella gay. All my friends are accepting and I’ve even found myself a girlfriend 😊. I am very comfortable and open about my sexuality and don’t mind who the hell knows. I have yet to tell my extended family and I’m not sure they really need to know until I’m in a serious relationship/married. (F/Lesbian)

When I came out last year I was 14 and thought I was bi. But recently I realized I am a lesbian as society had made me want to be with a man even if I didn’t want to be. I’m now more comfortable within myself then I’ve ever been and I’m starting to come out again; however, I’m not planning on telling my parents I’m gay as they know I’m bi. (F/15/Lesbian)

When I came out, I was 14 and my friends were all hanging out in the basement. One suggested we play truth or dare and somehow we all decided to say our sexuality out loud. My friends wanted me to be the first one, and after a lot of freaking out I said I was a lesbian. Turns out only 1 out of the 8 of us is straight! Still waiting to tell my parents. (F/16/Lesbian)

When I came out to my friends I felt kinda scared. I had already come out to my (now) girlfriend as bi and she came out to me as well as bi (I am now a lesbian). Most of my friends also are LGBTQ+ and or allies. We all basically became “super LGBTQ+” and met quite a few more queer friends. We now consist of a lesbian (me), 4 bisexuals, 3 trans folk, a pansexual, and about 10 allies. I feel very accepted and am very happy that we are all friends. (F/12/Lesbian)

When I came out, it was to my mom. We were having a late-night heart-to-heart, and I kept thinking that there wasn’t going to be a better time than this. When I told her, I had her guess, and she guessed that it had something to do with me not knowing whether I liked guys or girls. I came out, and then started crying. I was so relieved, because I hated lying. She was super supportive, although she did say it might be a phase. Good luck, all! (F/14/Lesbian)