When I came out, it was to my mom and probably one of the biggest mistakes I ever made. I was in seventh grade when I came out to her about being gender fluid. She instantly resorted to yelling, and telling my that it was all for attention and that gender fluidity is not a real thing. The worst part is that a few hours after that, around 1 in the morning I got a call from my best friend’s parents telling me that he had taken his own life, and I can’t help but feel that I am somehow the reason that he did what he did. She also forced me to get my hair cut really short the next day. (I had been growing it long so I could look more female.) Because of her I have been to therapy to get me, as she calls it, “fixed,” 11 times. I have developed depression and anxiety from that experience. I have tried to take my life 4 times now. I have become self abusive and don’t plan to be alive for high school graduation. I just hope that no one has to go through anything like I did. (Fluid/14/Demi pan romantic)
Story #2030
When I came out as aromantic my mom said that it was just a phase and that I would find “the one.” My friends are supportive, though, which is awesome. (Genderfluid/aroace)
Story #1966
When I came out to five of my friends they were all super supportive of me, and it turned out that all but one of them were LGBTQ+ too! The one friend who wasn’t was super supportive though. They accept me for who I am and use my proper pronouns and chosen name. I have bad anxiety so I’m too scared to come out to my parents anytime soon. Although I am glad that I came out to my friends. (Genderfluid/12/Pan)
Story #1957
When I came out — this was to my best friend — she said she knew before I had even told her. I remember it clearly because she had told me that she had a huge crush on me. We’re dating to this day, and that was over two years ago. She was the most supportive person I had ever had in my life, and I’m so thankful for her being there for me even when nobody else was. (Genderfluid/15/Pansexual)
Story #1943
When I came out I told my friend that I had a crush on my best friend, who was a girl. She was confused because I just got over my male crush. I explained it to her. Two days later she was shipping me with my crush so much it was kind of hilarious. (Agender/genderfluid (still figuring out)/14/Pansexual)
Story #1917
When I came out my mom and I were in the car getting me some new clothes. My mom got on the topic of LGBTQ+ and I just said I’m not 100% straight… She said she kinda realised it after a while and I started to cry. (Genderfluid/12/Pansexual)
Story #1899
When I came out my mom had a bad reaction so I ran away. I became extremely paranoid and had heightened anxiety. (I still do almost a year later.) My dad was EXTREMELY accepting and I found the friends who were truly going to stick by me. (Genderfluid/15/Panromantic)
Story #1830
When I came out to my friend over the phone I said, “I like boys, and girls” to which she replied, “Oh my gosh same” and I did a double take. Coming out to my other friend was hard because first I actually needed to get her attention, then I said, “[Friend], I’m bi” and she said, “Wait, say that again” so I said it again and she was happy and jumping around, then I told her I was genderfluid. At another place I was talking with three or four people and one said, “I don’t think I know anyone who is bi” so I had to say, “Now you have!” I say that I’m bi and genderfluid because it is SO much easier to understand than saying that I might be this or that or both or something. Anyway, continue being your queer/ally self and show that closet who is boss. (NB/genderfluid/androgynous/gender is confusing/13/Biromantic/panromantic/demiromantic/akoiromantic/ace)
Story #1821
When I came out it was the scariest thing ever. I first came out to my close friend group. Then I started writing letters (never sent) and emails (never sent) and practicing in front of the mirror. One day I got the courage to tell my grandmother, who told me she would support me no matter what. Then came the scary part… my mother. We went out to breakfast, and I sat silently for about 15 minutes before she said, “Do your little ‘coming out’ thing. I already know.” When I asked how, she told me she knew since I first found out myself (so about 2 years) and I always seemed gay. This made me laugh because I had been so nervous. At that time I had a girlfriend, who’s still my bestie, but now I have my second, who is loving and supportive and literally kept me from killing myself. (Born female, identifies non-binary / 13 / Bisexual, Genderfluid)
Story #1745
When I came out, it was a fast decision. I told one of my new friends that I was genderfluid and she looked at me and smiled and was awesome about it! (Genderfluid/13/Pan)