When I came out I was 11. At that time I identified as pansexual and had posted about it online. My parents, being overprotective, read it. Later, at a sleepover one September 15, my (lesbian) friend dared me to officially come out, as my parents hadn’t said anything on the topic. We made a little sign saying “am pansexual. – [deadname]”. (Transmasc/genderfluid/nonbinary/Pomoromantic/asexual/aro-spec)
Story #2512
When I came out, it was to my parents. They had known I was questioning my sexuality, but they didn’t exactly like it. I had made comments about me being aroace, but every time had felt like I was being judged for bringing it up so often (actually about once a month — and I’m aroace year round lol), and that my parents didn’t approve. I finally had another comment, and afterward I told my mom that I felt like I was not allowed to talk about my sexuality. They had made it clear that aroace was approvable because I’m not attracted to girls, but still not as good as straight (little do they know I’m pan oriented). (Non-binary trans masc/15/Trans non-binary gender-fluid pan-oriented aroace)
Story #2478
When I came out, it was to my friend who had previously come out to me as bi, and who knew I was aroace. I casually asked her if she used trans people’s real pronouns or not, which she did. I then added on that I use my name instead of pronouns. She accepted me for who I am, which I really appreciated. I also later joined a pride group chat, and might invite my friend as well. (Trans Nonbinary Bigender [Agender and Genderfluid]/15/ Aromantic Asexual Trans Nonbinary Pangender Genderfluid Agender Bigender)
Story #2454
When I came out, it was really scary. I had other gender-queer friends, and my parents called them by their preferred names and pronouns, so how hard could it be? I had spent all day writing “I am genderfluid and I like girls” out of lego, on a huge lego base-plate. When the time finally came, I called my dad into my room, and whipped the sign from the its hiding place. Turns out he (and my mum) already knew! The next day, they both called me into their room “to have a little chat”. Turns out all they wanted to do was literally pry every last detail out of me. I couldn’t help but cry, as they kept asking, asking, asking. Now, a few months later, they still won’t let me buy any gender-neutral or boy clothes, and are actually against me getting anything that relates to pride. I tried to make my room (which was annoying girly) more gender-neutral, but all my parents did was question every item I hid, or threw away. So now, I live my life constantly having to pretend I’m something I’m not, without enough courage to tell them anything truthful ever again. (Genderfluid/Omniromantic [I think])
Story #2447
When I came out for the first time, I was 12 and came out to my good friend about being pan. She is cishet, and was and still is really Christian. I told her and she said, “Isn’t (insert friend’s name here) gay too?” I didn’t know that, and we have been friends since she moved to where I live at 4. I go ask them, she apparently uses she/they and is lesbian. THEY DIDN’T TELL ME! So I came out to them, and she called me gay. We haven’t talked in 2 months, since she moved. I also came out as genderfluid to my transmasc friend today and he replied “forg” (I sent a genderfluid frog) (Genderfluid/14/Pan/mono)
Story #2439
When I came out I texted my best friend when I was first questioning, and then followed up a few days later and told them that I definitely am bi. A few months later, I told my parents over text with a bi frog. My brother was at a sleepaway camp; I think he found out when he got his phone back / through my jokes. A few more months after that I realized I am gender fluid and literally chose my name on the walk to school. I told one of my friends who is kinda the center of the friend group and probolby a few others directly but most of them realized through the trickle of info about gender/sexuality. I haven’t come out to my parents as a gender bender yet but I plan to… in the next few years. Kinda scared but it’s fiiiiiiiiiiiinnnnnnnneeeeee. Anyway I think I’m polyamorous and haven’t felt the need to tell people. If it comes up, my friends will learn something new about me. (Genderfluid/gender bender/13/Bisexual and probably polyamorous)
Story #2430
When I came out as genderfluid to my bff, she was really supportive. She’s bi/ace/demigirl as well so she was great about it. I’m coming out to my parents today… wish me luck. (Genderfluid/M/12/Pansexual)
Story #2407
When I came out I was in the kitchen with my mom. I had already told my two best friends. My mom said it looked like I did something, so I decided to tell her then even though I was going to tell her in the car (while she was parked, of course). I told her I was genderfluid and abrosexual, and she said she accepted me. She did say that at first people question their sexuality and mine might change. She said my grandparents won’t accept me very well and my dad would freak out but he was on a trip. I asked her if I could cut my hair really short (because my hair is below my shoulders) and she kept making sure it’s what I wanted. I also asked for a flag. She said the change from she/her to they/them would be difficult but she will try. (Genderfluid/13/Abrosexual)
Story #2380
When I came out to my friends, some accepted me and some didn’t. I got bullied a lot and still am. Although it’s hard to be in a negative place, I managed. I’ve had two partners and they were toxic, but now I’ve found the perfect partner and she is uber supportive and kind. My sister was next, and she and I are the misfits of the family so she has pretty much accepted me. My brothers and parents I still have to deal with, and I have to wait till I’m older but soon I will and we will see if they react badly. Coming out is scary, especially if you have religious parents/toxic parents, but if you try and fail keep trying and keep the people you love close! (Genderfluid/12/Gay/poly)
Story #2354
When I came out I just wrote notes to my mom. I told my older sister that I’m bisexual and she supported me. I told my younger sister too by legit just saying that to her. I said, “Scarlett, I like women and men.” Thank god she accepts me. My girlfriend helped me out to come out bisexual. Later, I’ll come out genderfluid. My friends and my girlfriend know I’m genderfluid, but let’s hope I can get that off my chest! (Genderfluid/13/Bisexual)