When I came out, I was 12 when I told my friends that I was trans, and they said, “Oh that’s cool” but still always called me a girl and used my birth name. I told my parents on the 4th November 2018 and they kicked me out of the house. I’m back home now though, and my mom’s coming around, although my step-dad thinks it’s a massive joke (he thinks the same about my anxiety and depression). I suffer with really bad dysphoria but I haven’t self-harmed since 12th October and I’m very proud of myself. I now get called my preferred name and pronouns at school but my peers are transphobic and bully me. (Male [FtM]/13/Heterosexual)
Story #1904
When I came out to my mum as a trans man she told me that nobody will love a woman without breasts and she didn’t want me to talk about it. She denied my gender Identity even until the moment of her death. She told my father, who said that if I was happy then everything was okay. My friends took it well and my family too. (FtM/27/Pansexual)
Story #1902
When I came out I was in the car with my dad. He asked me why I was so down all the time. I replied that I felt that I was born in the wrong body. He said he was supportive at first but turned out to be horribly transphobic. My mom is the only supportive family member (that knows, anyway). Now in school I’m starting to use my preferred name more and it has helped a lot. (Trans FtM/15/Pan)
Story #1895
When I came out it was with two friends. One of them even came out as pan! I felt a huge weight lifted off my chest. I also have to get something off my chest. I think I’m trans. I could never tell my parents this. It feels so good to come out a third time with people like me! So does this count as coming out with all of you? (FTM?/13/Bi/gay?)
Story #1888
When I came out at this Youth Group I was asking a leader for help. She and I were looking for something long and straight to use to help draw straight lines in. So while looking I said to her, “The reason I need your help, is because I can’t seem to do anything straight! Even be straight!” which she laughed and found a funny way of me telling her I’m bi. (Trans FtM/17/Bisexual)
Story #1841
When I came out as a transgender boy to my dad, he said, “So you’re a lesbian?” (M/18/Bi)
Story #1828
When I came out, I was 13. I told my friends first that I was queer and they were all fine with it because they are too. I told my parents in a letter and they were accepting, although they think it might just be a phase. Then I came out as transgender (FtM) and again, my friends were fine with it and immediately adapted to using my pronouns and name. However, my parents were not accepting and refuse to acknowledge my identity. It hurts, but I’m 14 now and I’ll be out of the house in 4 years anyways. (FtM/14/Transgender/queer)
Story #1801
When I came out I was 14. I have a close friend-group that are all queer and really open-minded, so it was easy to tell them. However, my family was another story. I had a whole plan on how to come out, but in the end it wasn’t necessary, because my mother already knew, so I kind of just blurted everything out. My mom is accepting and supports me, but my sister and step-dad are very conservative, but I know they’ll come around. (Trans[FtM]/15/Asexual [aromantic])
Story #1701
When I came out to my mom we both cried and she said she’d always support me. I had come out as non-binary, but I told her I was mostly just so, so confused. After that she would send me articles and testimonies about teens who thought they were trans or about how 80% of trans people are faking or how being “trans” as a teen is bad. I started to believe that I really wasn’t trans and was faking it for attention and I started becoming more feminine. It nearly killed me. Now I’ve come out to her as FtM and I still think she doesn’t really believe me.
Story #1697
When I came out, it was to my brother at the hotel of Holiday Inn with nobody around. I told him I wasn’t straight and I was pansexual, and he got worked up. He said, “You should learn to love the right way! Please don’t do this… Gay people are depressed as f*ck and commit suicide, and I don’t want to lose you, please…” and I just told him to forget about the conversation. One day I will be with my lover, and they can get rid of me. I’ll be happier with the one I truly love, not my homophobic family. (FtM/13/Pansexual/Trans)