When I came out about a year ago we were in a pub eating dinner and the friendly lesbian couple next to us were talking to my mum. I took that as an opportunity to tell them I was gay. My mum started crying because she was super proud of me and now talks to me about my ‘girl crushes’. 😂 It was such a good feeling having that weight off my chest. I also came out as a trans man recently but I’m not allowed to transition yet because I’m ‘too young’. (Trans FtM/15)
Story #2091
When I came out I did it gradually. I told my friends when we would have code names to call me boys names, and eventually just told them the name I want to go by and my new pronouns. They’re trying their best. I am coming out to my parents tonight over a text I have been rewriting for a long time. I haven’t send the text but I will by 10. It is 9:52 and I am scared. (Male [FtM]/16/Bisexual)
Story #2080
When I came out I was incredibly nervous. I told my cousin, who is the only person that I have been with my whole life besides my brother and parents, and she understood almost instantly. We used to always joke that I was more male than female and when we played dress up when we were younger, I would always been the husband or father. Everyone always assumed I was just a tomboy and I was just too influenced by my brother and father, but it was not until very recently that all my depression and anxiety came to a head and I had that thought, “What if I really am a boy and not just a boyish girl?” I have been hinting at being transgender ever since to my parents, brother, and younger sisters, but they all think it is just some ongoing joke I have and do not take me seriously. I talk with my cousin but neither of us have the money or resources to move out of our respective houses and start buying me the necessities I need to transition, so my hair is still long and I don’t have a binder. I am hoping to change that soon. (M [FtM]/18/Asexual)
Story #2073
When I came out I had to tell my mum three times before she understood that I was transgender. I came out as lesbian earlier that year and now me and my twin were coming out together as trans. Once she understood she was the most supportive person ever and was even prepared to cut ties with her slightly transphobic family. I then told all my friends and class and they were so supportive too. I never could have come out without my family and friends. (Trans FtM/13/Straight)
Story #2055
When I came out to my grade at school last year I sent a mass email to everyone. I got positive responses and some slightly transphobic responses but it was fine. Now almost exactly a year later I am called by my new name and a lot of people use my correct pronouns. Some people don’t but that’s okay. (FtM/15/Grey romantic asexual)
Story #2044
When I came out today I was writing a French essay for a test. It was supposed to be written from the perspective of a grandson/granddaughter to their grandmother. At the very end, I signed off with “from your grandson.” I turned it in and I’m waiting to see what he says… (Male [FtM]/16)
Story #2009
When I came out, it was to my friends. I was super nervous so instead of saying that I was trans I just kind of said, “By the way, I’m a guy.” Everyone was super supportive and all of them are LGBT+. I also came out to my dance teacher and my history teacher, both of whom are very supportive. I haven’t come out to my transphobic parents yet, but I plan to come out on New Year’s as my resolution. I’m pretty nervous but also excited. (M/13/FtM/gay/panromantic)
Story #2000
When I came out this month I cried a lot. My anxiety was begging me to do something about my entire life, because I accumulated a lot of issues and was having a lot of crisis and panic attacks through the year (of course realising I’m trans last year and having to deal with dysphoria wasn’t being helpful). I sat down and cried it all out with the only person I ever trusted with my life, my ex-boyfriend. He said he was fine with it (and even said he never stopped loving me!). He came out as pansexual and we both agreed on being best friends and tell everything to each other. I even told him that when I finally start taking T shots and officially change my name we can try something again, haha! I am still waiting to come out to my mom and my sister. I know they will accept at some point, but as I live in a country that’s specially dangerous to LGBTQ+ people, I’ll wait a bit more. Wish me luck! (Male [FTM]/16/Bisexual)
Story #1993
When I came out, I cried. It has always been something I’ve held close to my chest, and to tell someone something I had considered wrong and taboo was terrifying as much as it was freeing. I came out to my good friend, and then my little sister, then my friends, and recently my school and my mother. I’m just waiting for my father to figure it out at this point, and it’s terrifying. However, I’ll never regret accepting myself for who I am and trying to be happy. (M/18/Transgender FtM)
Story #1978
When I came out I only told one of my kind of friends but she was lesbian, so I thought she would accept me and she did (I’m trans btw). I haven’t really told anyone else. I told a friend and she asked if I like girls and I said not really, then she proceeded to tell me that I wasn’t a boy then. I haven’t told my parents but I will on January 23rd (my birthday) and I’m scared. (Trans[FtM]/15)