When I came out to my mom just a few days ago (because my siblings discovered that I was dating someone, though they did not know that it was a girl) I came out hoping that my mom would support me for who I am because have been always quiet and my mom was the only one close to me. However, it was the opposite. She became very upset, called me abnormal, begged me to change who I am, and blamed my partner as if she had brainwashed me into this kind of life. My mom also asked me not to tell my siblings and told me to stop crying because I was crying too hard and my dad might hear me. Everyone in my family are homophobic and I don’t know how my life will change after this and I’m honestly afraid. Right now all I can do is pray that my mom will not do anything to stop my relationship with my girlfriend. (F/20/Bisexual)
Story #1821
When I came out it was the scariest thing ever. I first came out to my close friend group. Then I started writing letters (never sent) and emails (never sent) and practicing in front of the mirror. One day I got the courage to tell my grandmother, who told me she would support me no matter what. Then came the scary part… my mother. We went out to breakfast, and I sat silently for about 15 minutes before she said, “Do your little ‘coming out’ thing. I already know.” When I asked how, she told me she knew since I first found out myself (so about 2 years) and I always seemed gay. This made me laugh because I had been so nervous. At that time I had a girlfriend, who’s still my bestie, but now I have my second, who is loving and supportive and literally kept me from killing myself. (Born female, identifies non-binary / 13 / Bisexual, Genderfluid)
Story #1818
When I came out for the first time, it was to one of my close friends. We were in the park goofing off. I said to him, “Can I tell you something? I’m bi.” He just looked at me and said, “Oh, ok. If anyone tries to hate on you then tell me.” Then we just went right back to whatever we were doing like what I never said anything. (F/12/Cis bisexual)
Story #1816
When I came out, I was 16, my exam results had just come out and I had done exceptionally well. I ended up having a breakdown because I felt like I was finally doing something right for the first time and making my mom proud, but I was still hiding a significant part of me. I felt like a fraud so I went out and got a piercing and texted my mum. I still haven’t come out to anyone else because I don’t like the idea of having to confess; it seems like admitting something shameful to me. One day I would like to just bring a girl along and be like , “This is my girl.” (F/19/Bi)
Story #1809
When I came out to my family last year, they were very supportive. Now it’s a completely different story. My mom acts like she doesn’t know and then makes comments about how I shouldn’t date girls and just preserve a friendship instead. I really hope she can learn to fully accept me soon. (F/15/Bi)
Story #1799
When I came out to my mom, I was random. I took a photo on Snapchat, edited it saying “[my name] = [gay flag]” and sent it to her. And now she’s happy as she can embarrass me about boys and girls and she now has an excuse to go to pride. But, my dad is super religious so, I’ll see what happens there another time. (F/14/Bisexual)
Story #1791
When I came out I was 18, still a high school senior, and was very popular. I knew I was different and it scared me. I told my sisters and mother. In the moment it felt right but I soon found out it was a horrible choice at the moment. They don’t look at me the same anymore and I feel alone. They punished me by not letting me talk to friends and wanting to isolate me. They want me to forget who I am. I can’t live like this anymore. I feel trapped and alone. (M/18/Bi)
Story #1786
When I came out the first time, it was to my best friend. He was cool about it, but it got weird at first. I’m an affectionate guy; I love hugs and being close to people. After I came out I was scared that doing those things to him would make him uncomfortable. When he realized that I was acting differently, he held me and said that me being bi didn’t change the fact he loved my hugs. (M/19/Bisexual)
Story #1785
When I came out over text to my dance team, I was terrified. I got an idea from this website to text the group telling them that I found Narnia and when one of them said where (which they did) I would say, “In the closet surprise I’m bi.” Things went well; I had to do a little explaining but that’s ok. The only negative is that one of the girls hasn’t replied at all, which is unlike her. I don’t know what to think. (F/14/Bi)
Story #1783
When I came out I was hanging out with my cousin. We were talking with my step-sister (she’s bi) on the phone. I had been thinking about coming out to my cousin for a while and when we got off the phone I just looked at her and said, “I’m bi.” She smiled and said, “Cool, me too.” Next is the Christian parents! (F/15/Bisexual)