Bisexual Coming Out Stories

When I came out to my friend yesterday, we were in the bus ride to a field trip. We were talking about how there was a time when I was very social and I brought up that there was something that had happened that made me less confident in myself (coming out to my close friends and parents). She asked what it was so I typed in phone, “I’m kinda bi.” She was/is supper supportive about it and we just talked about for a while. I’m so glad I have friends like her. (F/14/Bi)

When I came out the first time was to one of my best friends, and I told her when I was fourteen. She was totally cool with it, and a month later I told my dad, who then told my mom. He wasn’t as accepting and we haven’t talked about it since. It makes about a year now. Last month I told one of my other best friends and she was super cool with it too. (F/15/Bi)

When I came out I was extremely scared. I noticed that I started having attraction towards females and yet I still liked males. I was extremely confused and I questioned my sexuality for over two years. One day I was alone in my room thinking and I finally realized that I was bisexual and I broke down crying. My close friend, who had come out long before I had, offered me emotional support and was able to help me see that my sexuality wasn’t something to be ashamed of but something beautiful to embrace. I came out to my friends and for the most part, they were pretty accepting, and some said, “We kind of knew already but we are glad you trusted us with this.” I still haven’t come out to my parents, but I’m slowly starting to build up the courage and hope to tell them soon. (F/17/Bisexual)

When I came out I didn’t know what to expect. I have had feelings for girls since the fourth grade… but I’ve known I had always liked guys too. I wanted to come out to my cousin first because they are in lgbtq+ community. They said they will support me if I ever needed it. They promised they wouldn’t tell anyone because I was afraid. I still have not come out to my guardians because I am scared to say my sexuality. (F/13/Bisexual)

When I came out I started by telling my friend over Instagram, because she did a poll on her story asking who was LGBT. I said yes and then I told her not to tell anybody ’cause I was too scared. About 3 months later I told my other friend, because I was feeling really upset and she could tell something was wrong. We talked about it for about an hour. She helped me to have the courage to come out to my parents, which I finally did about 2 weeks later. I wrote a letter to them but I ended up just telling them. Then I told all of my close friends through an Instagram post. Everyone was really supportive but I still feel afraid of talking about it. I don’t have any queer friends and I just feel like a freak every time I talk about it. (F/22/Bi)

When I came out I was fifteen. I had just found out that I was bi. I went to school at that time and I told myself I wouldn’t tell anyone, not even my friends, because I was scared that they wouldn’t know how to act around me. One night, I went to a party and got so drunk that I screamed on the top of my lungs that I was bi and then I fell on the ground and started sobbing. People were super nice. They gave me speeches on how I should accept myself and carried me to my friend’s car so she could drive me home. (F/Bisexual)

When I came out, it was first to my sister, and then later to my close friend group (including a neutral friend who just happened to be there at that moment). Today, a few months later, my sister convinced me to come out to my parents with a card that she and I made. It had a heart with the bisexual flag in it, and underneath it, it said, “Hi, I’m bisexual. Gotta go, so bi.” I never knew my coming out would include a pun. My parents were very supportive and I think my father was proud of our using a pun. (F/Bisexual)