Bisexual Coming Out Stories

When I came out I didn’t know what to expect. I have had feelings for girls since the fourth grade… but I’ve known I had always liked guys too. I wanted to come out to my cousin first because they are in lgbtq+ community. They said they will support me if I ever needed it. They promised they wouldn’t tell anyone because I was afraid. I still have not come out to my guardians because I am scared to say my sexuality. (F/13/Bisexual)

When I came out I started by telling my friend over Instagram, because she did a poll on her story asking who was LGBT. I said yes and then I told her not to tell anybody ’cause I was too scared. About 3 months later I told my other friend, because I was feeling really upset and she could tell something was wrong. We talked about it for about an hour. She helped me to have the courage to come out to my parents, which I finally did about 2 weeks later. I wrote a letter to them but I ended up just telling them. Then I told all of my close friends through an Instagram post. Everyone was really supportive but I still feel afraid of talking about it. I don’t have any queer friends and I just feel like a freak every time I talk about it. (F/22/Bi)

When I came out I was fifteen. I had just found out that I was bi. I went to school at that time and I told myself I wouldn’t tell anyone, not even my friends, because I was scared that they wouldn’t know how to act around me. One night, I went to a party and got so drunk that I screamed on the top of my lungs that I was bi and then I fell on the ground and started sobbing. People were super nice. They gave me speeches on how I should accept myself and carried me to my friend’s car so she could drive me home. (F/Bisexual)

When I came out, it was first to my sister, and then later to my close friend group (including a neutral friend who just happened to be there at that moment). Today, a few months later, my sister convinced me to come out to my parents with a card that she and I made. It had a heart with the bisexual flag in it, and underneath it, it said, “Hi, I’m bisexual. Gotta go, so bi.” I never knew my coming out would include a pun. My parents were very supportive and I think my father was proud of our using a pun. (F/Bisexual)

When I came out to my mom just a few days ago (because my siblings discovered that I was dating someone, though they did not know that it was a girl) I came out hoping that my mom would support me for who I am because have been always quiet and my mom was the only one close to me. However, it was the opposite. She became very upset, called me abnormal, begged me to change who I am, and blamed my partner as if she had brainwashed me into this kind of life. My mom also asked me not to tell my siblings and told me to stop crying because I was crying too hard and my dad might hear me. Everyone in my family are homophobic and I don’t know how my life will change after this and I’m honestly afraid. Right now all I can do is pray that my mom will not do anything to stop my relationship with my girlfriend. (F/20/Bisexual)

When I came out for the first time, it was to one of my close friends. We were in the park goofing off. I said to him, “Can I tell you something? I’m bi.” He just looked at me and said, “Oh, ok. If anyone tries to hate on you then tell me.” Then we just went right back to whatever we were doing like what I never said anything. (F/12/Cis bisexual)