When I came out, it was in maths class last year to a girl who sat next to me. She wanted me to be her “Gay Best Friend” but I think I’m quite a lame one. On top of that, I didn’t realise I was asexual until a few weeks ago. To be honest, it’s been a really horrible year, just a giant punch to the face every day, and being gay and ace makes me feel different in a bad way, and coming out seems stupid because why should someone judge you for that, why can’t you just be yourself and not say anything? And then, I feel like if I come out as ace people will think I’m lame because I don’t know who’s attractive. I just hope this year is over soon and then we can all laugh about it. (M/17/Gay/ace)
Story #2055
When I came out to my grade at school last year I sent a mass email to everyone. I got positive responses and some slightly transphobic responses but it was fine. Now almost exactly a year later I am called by my new name and a lot of people use my correct pronouns. Some people don’t but that’s okay. (FtM/15/Grey romantic asexual)
Story #2030
When I came out as aromantic my mom said that it was just a phase and that I would find “the one.” My friends are supportive, though, which is awesome. (Genderfluid/aroace)
Story #2019
When I came out to my parents for the first time, as asexual, I was 14. They’re very cishet-normative, but they’ve been trying to be very supportive. Tonight, I put a letter on their bed saying I am nonbinary. I don’t know if they’ve read it yet. Tomorrow, I’m
going to come out to my younger brother. I’m scared, but I’m also tired of pretending to be something I’m not. I hope they respond well. (Nonbinary/16/Aroace, agender)
Story #1963
When I came out to my 18-year-old friend as asexual she freaked out and told me she was too XD She is so far the only person I know to be asexual like me. (F/13/Asexual biromantic)
Story #1954
When I came out I was texting one of my friends on Messenger. And I told them I like someone. “Is he nice?” she said. “… she” I corrected her. (Agender/14/Asexual/demi-homoromantic)
Story #1933
When I came out I told my sister while we were on a dog walk. She didn’t care but wasn’t mean about it. I then told my friends during school the next day. They were all really supportive! Although I have yet to come out to my parents. (F/13/Asexual/biromantic)
Story #1912
When I came out, my friend said she didn’t think I was actually asexual. She said I was too young to know, and I might not have just had sexual attraction yet. That really hurt me, and I had and still have anxiety and self-doubt about my identity. My other two friends who were there accepted me, but I’m scared to come out to anyone again. (F/14/Asexual/panromantic)
Story #1909
When I came out it was to my ex, now one of my closest friends. We kinda did a “double confession”. She told me that she was actually they — nonbinary. I told them that I was asexual. They were surprised at first, considering our history, but in the end were very accepting. I’ve come out to a couple other people since then, but close family is for a bit later. I want to be sure of myself before others are. I’m right now in the process of questioning gender and romantic attraction, since I’m pretty sure something’s going on there. 😏 I’m also learning that having doubts is natural, and that regardless of tiny contradictions — or a complete change in orientation — you are still completely valid. ❤️ (M/18/Ace)
Story #1907
When I came out, it was to my bi friend. She said, “If you weren’t straight, I’d totally date you.” I looked at her and said, “I’m kinda not straight lol”. Then she hugged me and called me her gayby. She’s taking me with her to pride meeting at her school. (F/Panromantic/asexual)