When I came out to my parents, I didn’t come out, I was forced out. My mum and I don’t have the best relationship, so we don’t talk very much. Because of this my mum doesn’t trust me all that much. Well, one day my mum decided that I have to be hiding something so took my phone and went through it, reading EVERYTHING. She found out about my girlfriend and my identity. The first thing she did was kick me out, then, after about an hour, she let me back in. We talked — meaning she yelled at me — for about two hours and that was that. It was rarely mentioned again apart from the occasional ‘well-meaning’ homophobic comment. (Non-binary/16/Lesbian asexual)
Story #2193
When I came out to my friends, it was in 5th or 6th grade. In 4th grade, a girl came to our school. I thought she was reeaallyy pretty. She had dark brown hair, freckles, and blue green eyes. I will not name her. I told my friends I like her, and nothing really changed. They tried to “set us up”, which failed. It was adorable though. (Demigirl/13/Biromantic/asexual)
Story #2182
When I came out, me and my friends were joking around, as teens do. Then I was like, ‘yo how bout we play T or D (truth or dare)’ and we somehow ended up on the topic ’lgbt’. We all just literally shouted around the whole academy our orientation/identity to each other and it was hilarious. (Ethegender/15/Cupioromantic asexual gyneromantic)
Story #2166
When I came out as asexual, it was to my upperclassman friend. She was mega supportive of me, and stopped shipping me with people, because she understood it might have made me uncomfortable. I also came out to one of my best friends and she was also supportive of me, though she was suspecting that I was ace already. I currently have a girlfriend, but am not planning to come out to anyone else any time soon~ (F/15/PanAce Aroflux)
Story #2153
When I came out it was telling a friend I used to have a crush in her. “But I gave up because you were straight.” She told me she was bi, and now we’re dating, even though I’m genderfae. (Genderfae/15/Panromantic asexual)
Story #2117
When I came out I was really scared. I have homophobic parents — well, mom — and I had already come out to some of my friends. My brother was my only family member who knew and he helped me through tough times of figuring myself out. I decided to let my mom know I was pansexual and asexual because she always insulted the LGBTQIA+ and I was getting hurt a lot but nothing changed once I came out to her. Instead she said stuff like I’m gross, I’m a sin, it’s just a dumb phase, stuff like that hurt a lot. I don’t have many friends so I would try to just move on with myself and be happy with who I am even though if I really am a disappointment but it’s alright. I’m happy being me and expressing what and who I love. I mean, I can’t help it. (F/15/PanAce)
Story #2105
When I came out as aroace I first came out to my classmate/friend. I told her I thought I was aroace, but she laughed and made fun of me, saying I was way too young to know and just confused. The next day I came out to my mum that night after she asked me if I was gay, and I told her no. I told her that I just didn’t like anybody and that that would probably be forever like that. She was first off sad because she thought that I would be unhappy that way. I told her that I’m happy with friends and family and that if I would be in a relationship, it would make me unhappy. She accepted it, so I told her that I was probably aroace. She accepted that too. (Genderfluid/13/Aroace)
Story #2102
When I came out, my sister found my journal and read it, finding out about my crush and she thought I was gay. Turns out my sister is incredibly homophobic, and I found her diary. All she talked about was boys and how “ewwwww my sister is gay” and it kind of crushed me. But she knows I’m bi now… (F/13/Asexual biromantic)
Story #2101
When I came out, my friends were all really supportive (thankfully). My best friend is straight. I figured out I liked girls when my other friend came out as bi, and I had a crush on her (I still do, ack). My parents don’t know, but I came out to my other friends as asexual but didn’t get a chance to tell them I was also biromantic. The good thing about that is that they won’t nag me about who I like. (F/13/Asexual biromantic)
Story #2092
When I came out, I was in a meeting with one of my teachers. She looked at me and told me she was so proud of me and that I should never be ashamed for who I am. She gave me a bunch of resources that she had used in the past and got me connected to several community groups. She told me to call her any time and would stand by my side even if my parents didn’t support me in my decision. (F/17/Asexual/gay)