When I came out as aroace it was completely unintentional. A lot of my friends and I were talking during break about one of my friends’ unhealthy obsession with the moon and another one of my friends explained it as such: “If the moon was a girl, he’d marry her.” To which I replied, “Too bad, most moongoddesses are aroace.” (I had that one quote from OSP stuck in my head.) When somebody else asked what aroace was, the second friend explained it really quickly with ending: “So, basically me.” I was all, “You’re aroace?! I’m aroace!” And the friend with the moon obsession was all like, “I’m just ace 🙂 ” It was the greatest day of my life. So that’s how I came out to all of my school friends (and some of them came out with me). (F/17/Aroace)
Story #2549
When I came out to my parents, they were just neutral. At the time, I was bisexual and they were completely fine with it. My friends supported me so much, it felt like a dream. However, over time, I lost attraction and I didn’t feel any sexual attraction to people. I was worried sick because I felt odd and alien-like, so I searched up what I was feeling and turns out I’m asexual, but I didn’t feel at ease with that, since romance wasn’t kind my thing. After a little bit of digging, I found out I’m aroace. My family and parents supported me just as well when I was bi. (M/16/Aroace)
Story #2529
When I came out a month or two ago, I told two friends of mine that my pronouns were he/she and thought nothing more of it. Then, a little more than a week ago, one of those friends referred to me as ‘he’ in front of some other friends, and those friends asked me my pronouns and I said he/she and told them I was genderfluid. We talked about our own gender journeys (pretty much all my friends are queer and a couple of them aren’t cis) and it was super chill and I felt super good. I’m so happy to have such amazing and supportive friends and I hope you have a great day! (Genderfluid/14/Aroace)
Story #2512
When I came out, it was to my parents. They had known I was questioning my sexuality, but they didn’t exactly like it. I had made comments about me being aroace, but every time had felt like I was being judged for bringing it up so often (actually about once a month — and I’m aroace year round lol), and that my parents didn’t approve. I finally had another comment, and afterward I told my mom that I felt like I was not allowed to talk about my sexuality. They had made it clear that aroace was approvable because I’m not attracted to girls, but still not as good as straight (little do they know I’m pan oriented). (Non-binary trans masc/15/Trans non-binary gender-fluid pan-oriented aroace)
Story #2510
When I came out I made a little jar with the bi colours. I later made a new jar featuring the aroace colours and since then have kept it in my room. I also should probably come out as nonbinary (I kinda have already but everyone keeps using she/her pronouns around me even though I use they/them) before my birthday so I’m not getting all these “to my amazing granddaughter” cards or something… (Non-binary/13/Aromantic asexual)
Story #2478
When I came out, it was to my friend who had previously come out to me as bi, and who knew I was aroace. I casually asked her if she used trans people’s real pronouns or not, which she did. I then added on that I use my name instead of pronouns. She accepted me for who I am, which I really appreciated. I also later joined a pride group chat, and might invite my friend as well. (Trans Nonbinary Bigender [Agender and Genderfluid]/15/ Aromantic Asexual Trans Nonbinary Pangender Genderfluid Agender Bigender)
Story #2471
When I came out to my mother as nonbinary (she already knew I liked girls; this was before I figured out I was oriented aroace and liked nonbinary peeps too), she seemed okay with it and actually sort of seemed like she already suspected. My stepfather came into the same room about half way through to make a fire, and my mom just kept talking about it even though I didn’t want him to hear because he has said some questionable things about trans people in the past. He definitely heard the conversation, but didn’t comment, didn’t talk to me, and just kept sighing and rolling his eyes. He hasn’t brought it up since; in fact, he seems to call me a girl every chance he gets (practically in every sentence e.g. “You’re a smart girl…”, “Come on, girl!”, etc.), and my mom also calls me a girl and doesn’t use they/them pronouns with me. I’m still figuring out whether I should bring it up with them, come out to my stepfather properly, or if I wasn’t explicit enough. (Nonbinary-Trans and Agenspec Polygender/11/Omniaspec Enbitrix Oriented Aroace)
Story #2470
When I came out, it was back in January. I have actually documented my story not too long ago, but that was before I came out to my dad and sister. Me and family were going to a pride parade (my first one!!) and before we left, I sat my dad down, showed him my flag, and told him I was aroace. He said that he kinda knew already because of my disinterest in romance. He said he obviously still loved me and didn’t say anything that I was too young because he knows that I know best. I was so happy! When I went to the parade, my sister noticed it but didn’t ask about it. Just remember you’re valid! And to my ace-spec and aro-spec fam: You are totally part of the community! Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise! (F/13/Aroace)
Story #2466
When I came out, it was to a close friend. She had just come out to me as bisexual a week or so earlier, and I had already told them about being aroace, so I knew she was part of the community. She texted me to tell me she was actually a lesbian, and I responded cool, then I asked them what they would do about non binary pronouns. She said she would use their real pronouns, and asked, ‘hey, aren’t you nb too? I’m actually a demigirl.’ Her support also helped me tell another one of my friends. Hopefully you all can find your people who will support you. (NONBINARY/I HAVE NO GENDER ONLY RAGE/14/Aromantic Asexual Agender Nonbinary Trans [FtNB])
Story #2459
When I came out, I first came out to my brother. At the time, both of us were living as girls. I built a little house in minecraft with my pride flag as the color scheme, and he did the same. We later talked about it on a walk, and then came out to our other family together. (Masc enby/15/Aroace/polyam)