When I came out to my mom I was maybe 15 or 16, and I just walked into her room one night and told her, “Mom, I have something very important to tell you. I’m never going to have kids. I’m never going to have sex, because I’m ace.” And obviously she was like, “You’re too young to know, you’ve never dated anyone before, it’s just a phase, you’ll find that special someone later in life, you don’t have to worry about it right now,” and all that. And I was just crying as I tried to explain to her that it wasn’t a phase and that I had been distressed for some time, but that I was into guys, just I couldn’t emotionally comprehend sexual attraction the way everyone else did. Like, ya it made sense logically, but other than finding people aesthetically pleasing, I just wasn’t ever *attracted* to anyone. She needed some time to think about it, but she’s pretty accepting now. My high school friends honestly knew before I did; they’d always ask me, “Oh, you’re ace, right?” even while I was questioning, so coming out to them was really easy. (F/19/Heteroromantic asexual)
Story #2259
When I came out it was to three friends when we were hanging out and chatting. The one that isn’t my closest friend started bringing up the topic of Pride month, and I casually mentioned I was questioning. They were all absolutely fine with it; in fact, they didn’t even care. I am fortunate enough to live in a very accepting family, school, and town, and although they are all straight the aforementioned one told me that a lot of people in her friend group, the “popular friend group,” weren’t straight, which made me really happy even though I had not suspected that. I haven’t come out to anyone else yet including my parents/family because I am scared of confrontation, but I am 95% positive they will be completely accepting. (She/her/13/Questioning)
Story #2258
When I came out was actually just 30 minutes ago to my grandma. She texted me an artist whose name was Angelina Jordan and said it was her favorite artist. Then she proceeded to say, “I love listening to her when I feel a little extra bi.” She also said that many in our family were bi and that she loved me. So basically my grandma came out to me and I was like f it and I told her I was demi and trans. We then texted a little more and she said she knew since I was 3. I’ve always been scared to tell my grandparents but I now know they’ll always love me. (M/13/Demisexual/transgender)
Story #2257
When I came out at age 12 to my mom and siblings it wasn’t direct, but later my mom got me an apointment to talk to a specialist about how I felt. Even though it’s been almost over two years now and I’m waiting for my next appointment with someone who might be able to get me started on T and get top surgery, my mom still misgenders me and deadnames me, which has taken a toll on my mental health. But I’ve finally found a friend who doesn’t misgender me and tries his best at not deadnaming me. (M/13/Demisexual/transgender)
Story #2256
When I came out to my friend she supported me :)) I know I should probably write more, but I love my friend a lot and I’m just glad she supports me (Genderqueer/agender/15/Aroace biromantic)
Story #2255
When I came out it was multiple times. First I told a couple of close friends and people that I trusted, and they were pretty much all very accepting, which is good. Only one of my friends that I’m out to is also LGBT+ so we chat about things related to that lots. My most recent coming out was earlier today: I was thinking about coming out to my form (class) at school and I typed up a message to the group chat, but then I changed my mind and accidentally pressed send rather than delete and I basically freaked out and left. No one has send anything yet so I’ll have to see how that goes. Happy pride month! 🏳️🌈 (F/12/Lesbian)
Story #2254
When I came out I realized how misunderstood enbies are. I had to explain almost every aspect of my gender identity and sexuality to my parents and friends, and reassure them that we actually exist. There are just so few of us, apparently, that not even close to everyone knows the basics of our gender (or anti-gender) self-concepts. Stay strong, and don’t let “normal society” get to you. Just be yourself, be modest, and be kind. (Non-binary agender/15/Pansexual)
Story #2253
When I came out it was to a group of internet friends, I told them I was bisexual. Fast-forward 3 COVID lockdowns and a lot of time to think and you have one Biromantic Demisexual Bigender Teen. I am out at school as bisexual. I am not confident enough to come out as bigender though; doing so makes me feel like I would be forever stuck in that box. The dysphoria hits hard and I have had many a sleepless night. Hopefully things improve. Mum and Dad are good people but they don’t know much about the LGBTQ community. Wish me luck? ;D (Bigender/14/Biromantic demisexual)
Story #2252
When I came out it wasn’t really coming out. I posted something about my sexuality online and my mom found out. She yelled at me and said the reason I posted it was so I could attract women. She finally calmed down after a few days and joked about it a few months ago. (Demifluid/Omnisexual)
Story #2252
When I came out one of my parents didn’t really act like I said anything and the other was very adamant that I would change my mind. The conversation lasted around an hour and for every reason I gave the one parent had an opposite view. Didn’t go well, but my friends are accepting. 🖤💜 (F/20/Asexual heteroromantic)