When I came out I was on this app where messaging people was available — mind you that the app was 18+ and I was definitely not that age — and on that app I was talking to a girl, yk in a more of a friendship kinda way, knowing she was way older, which is besides the point; I know now it was really dumb now. But my mom found these messages. I panicked and thought, “Well, she’s gonna ask something about me messaging a girl,” so I just went “Well, now is a good time to tell you I’m bisexual.” And well, her reaction was not good, and I had a breakdown, so now I don’t bring it up, but hopefully in the future I’ll be comfortably out to her. (F/Bisexual)
Story #2370
When I came out to my friends as pansexual, they were all supportive, being that most of them were already part of it. I’m still questioning right now and haven’t come out to anyone else, but I’m glad to have some of the people I care about most on my side. (Demisexual pansexual)
Story #2369
When I came out to everybody I was living with at the time was on National Coming Out Day. We were eating dinner, I just said it was National Coming Out Day and said I was bi. They didn’t really say much, but there were a few friendly jokes thrown around. I think overall they don’t mind, though. At first everybody acted like I just liked boys, but know I think they have come to normalize the fact that I’m bi. Before that day I just made subtle comments that indicated that I might like girls. They also knew that I liked a girl, but didn’t really know I was bi. (F/14/Bisexual)
Story #2368
When I came out I opted never to tell anyone about being neutrois because I’ve never been motivated enough to educate everyone about non-binary stuff (I’m out to some as acearo). I joined my uni’s lgbt club and was able to adopt a gender-neutral name and they/them pronouns for the first time. I was able to talk about my gender/orientation and queer issues without worrying about any -phobias or having to educate people. I didn’t realise how much I wanted to hear my proper name and pronouns until it happened. We even marched in a historically huge pride parade. Unfortunately, once the competent leader stepped down the rest proved to be performative, incompetent and ableist towards me, so I bailed at the beginning of quarantine. Still, it made me realise that there are queer communities accessible to me. Hopefully the next one is better. (Neutrosis/26/Asexual aromantic)
Story #2367
When I came out as non-binary, I texted my mum while I was with my friends. It has been stressful but everyone is really supportive and they all try their best to remember my pronouns and new name. I am also out to my friends as asexual/biromantic — they asked me to explain what it meant and once they understood they were both really nice about it. Things are going well now and I’m starting an LGBTQ+ youth group this week, and I plan to tell my parents about my sexuality within a few days 🙂 (Non-binary/13/Asexual/biromantic)
Story #2366
When I came out to one of my closest friends a few months ago over text, as a queer person herself, she was cool with it. The next day, I came out to my friends in my chorus class, who were also really supportive. My sister knows too and has become really sensitive about sexuality talk, which is really sweet of her. I hope to one day have the courage to tell my parents, but for now, I’m happy the way things are! (F/15)
Story #2365
When I first came out I was 12-13 years old. I came out as bisexual and my parents and friends supported me really well, but only last year I came out as transgender. My friends really supported me and had my back because some of them were a part/allies of the lgbtq+ which made things easier. Here comes the tricky part: I had sorted out a huge letter for my parents via text. Keep in my mind that my dad is Jewish, so when I came out I got a very silent response, which I had expected. My mum, on the other hand, helped be who I am but she never fully accepted me or she never said and would say things like “No, you’re not, you’re a girl” …etc etc. Fast forward to now, I think I might be pansexual/bisexual but I don’t know yet and I’m hoping that one day I can decide. (FtM/16/Pansexual/transgender/bisexual/questioning)
Story #2364
When I came out to my mom, I was in the car with her. I wanted to make sure I could summon my courage and tell her, so I told myself I would not get out of the car until I told her. We pulled up to our destination and she started to get out, but I asked her to hang on for a second. I told her I was bi and she looked worried and asked if that meant that I could not marry my boyfriend. I told her that even though I was bi, I was still allowed to marry my boyfriend if I wanted to. (Bigender/32/Queer/bi)
Story #2363
When I came out I told my friends first (who all turned out to be queer too, I just had the ultimate swag to come out first lol) and they were very accepting. Then I told my parents, who were accepting but also cold and skeptical, especially my mom, who thought that I didn’t know enough about gender identities to decide for myself. She convinced me I was non-binary, which was kinda wack, but when I re-came out again she respected it, and now she even supports me starting T! (FtM/17/Gay)
Story #2362
When I came out both my parents were cool with it and so was the rest of my family. I accidentally told my friends but they were cool, but not my toxic ex best friend who told me I’m a girl. My cousin got the hint and doesn’t really care. Btw I came out as trans ftm and I am going to come out as bigender too. Just know not to let people bring you down. 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈 (Bigender/Young)