When I Came Out

When I came out, it was at the bar to about a dozen of my friends. I was terrified at the time but months down the line, all my friends remarked on how much happier I was and how all the anger I had in me seemed to have disappeared because I was honest with them and with myself. Six years later and life is still getting better every day!

When I came out to my grandmother, she told me: “Of course you’re gay. You are so sensitive and smart! How could you not?”

When I came out, my mother said, “You’re going to die of AIDS!” and ran out of the room crying. 25 years later, she treats my husband of 17 years like family, and can’t understand why gay couples across the country can’t get married.

When I came out, my aunt simply told me, “I didn’t fall off the turnip truck yesterday.”

When I came out, my father told me he loved me, but we were not going to speak about this ever again. Oh, and don’t tell my mother, she wouldn’t understand. Low and behold, years later, after marrying a woman with quite a lot of gay friends and a gay daughter, let’s say Dad has surrounded himself with gay men and lesbians… but doesn’t want me to tell my brother about this, he wouldn’t understand.

When I came out my dad asked, “Well, is it something you can change?” When I said no, he said, “Well, then I will have to learn to live with it. You know I love you though, right?” And I did.

When I came out, my dad topped it by coming out right back. Awkward.

When I came out, my father said, “I love you very much, you’re my son.” Now, he calls my partner his son, too.

When I came out, my older sister used it as a platform to tell our parents about her cocaine addiction.

When I came out to my best friend, he was nothing short of supportive. He told me I was making much more of a deal out of it than it was and that, at the end of the day, we were still bros.