When I Came Out

When I came out, I was exceptionally lucky – I think I only lost one mate, who just drifted away. Even my grandparents don’t care. The best reaction was from a cousin who apologised for assuming I was straight.

When I came out, my mom called me a dumb b*tch and kicked me out of the house. I finally am now back. I’m only 14, I’m a lesbian, and proud. Nobody will change that (:

When I came out on a Wednesday, I packed my stuff on a Thursday and moved out on a Friday. Living with my boyfriend is so much better than living with my parents. A few weeks later when I came out on Facebook my grandmother told me God made Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve. She was serious. I told her then that I don’t believe in God.

When I came out to both parents at age 38 it was because I walked into the kitchen just as my Dad said, “We’ve got one at work – and he’s OK.” I asked, “One what?” “A queer.” “Well, you’ve got a queer son – and I hope that’s OK too!” Mum gave me a kiss and a big hug and told me that they loved me. In her last year of life as I cared for her through infirmity and dementia, I had the pleasure of having to come out several times – and always with the same loving response.

When I came out, my mother thought I had AIDS. I don’t have the heart to tell her I’m now HIV+.

When I came out, as lesbian, to my classically conservative parents (Catholic, Traditional, Latino), my dad texted me the next morning, “A parent will never stop loving his child for what it is or does, I just worry about the adversities you’ll have to face.” To this day, they are the only adversity I’ve had to face. They are still convinced it is a sickness and confusion.

When I came out in my 40s, I was surprised by how few people were really surprised. I thought I had done such a good job acting like I was straight. I am now 60 and my mother still thinks that I am just going through a phase.

When I came out, I was lucky to have the loving support of my family, friends, and my children. Now I am giving back to the GLBTIQ community, by helping others.

When I came out to my mom years ago and told her I was bisexual, she insisted it was just a phase and I had no clue what I really wanted because I was only 15. I still haven’t worked up the courage to come out to her again because I’m afraid she’ll keep denying it.

When I came out to my friends, nothing in my life really changed at all, and that’s more than I could have ever asked for.