When I Came Out

When I came out as Bi to my friend, she was so happy for me and said she will always support me no matter what.

When I came out to my parents, mom and dad freaked out, mainly dad. But my friends had completely different reactions; they accepted me and said that they all still love me.

When I came out to my best friend he said “okay” and then asked me if I had a girlfriend, and if I wanted to go throw things at the local Chick-fil-A.

When I came out I did it to my best friend. She’s a lesbian and had come out to me two years ago. She asked me why I waited so long, and I told her I was scared. I was scared not of rejection, but of finally coming out to myself and letting myself know that I was gay and it was going to be okay.

When I came out, my dad, who worked at Microsoft, said it would take a while to process what he just heard but I was still his son and he would love me no matter what. When we were hugging my phone rang and I pulled out my iPhone and he yelled “Get the !&*#@ out of my house!”

When I came out today, my parents told me I have to change or my entire family (uncles, aunt, cousins, grandparents) will shun me. I tried to explain several times but all they said was I cannot be stubborn. I told them my friends have been helping me and they got mad and told me to leave those friends behind. They want me to go to therapy. I have a choice to make now, either I lose the only family I’ve ever had or I lose myself.

When I came out, my younger sister told me that I wasn’t really gay and that I just needed therapy. My parents said that they’d always love me but would never accept any man I dated or wanted to marry. Now I have more family than I ever imagined with my boyfriend’s family! You may not be able to choose the family you have, but you can build the family you want.

When I came out, my parents said that I was deceived by TV shows and friends and I wasn’t really gay. I was also told that while I was always welcome, a girlfriend/wife/partner never would be. I guess time will tell if this gets better.

When I came out my mom had a panic attack and said, “I just want to die.” A week later she has still not accepted anything and wants to think I am straight. She believes my friends have convinced me I am gay.

When I came out to my friend, she hugged me and said: “You’re my friend and I love you no matter what.”