When I Came Out

When I came out I was 17. It was a forced coming out to my dad because someone told him about my girlfriend. He still believes he failed as a parent but is slowly coming around to accept me for who I am.

When I came out to my parents it was a complete accident. My girlfriend broke up with me a week before and I was heartbroken. I had told my parents how stupid my “friend” was and told them the entire story from the third person point of view. On my way out the door, my dad said, “Why do you care so much? It’s not like you were going out with her……*blank stare*…..right?…” I was NOT prepared for that and froze up. He became extremely awkward as did my mother. I said, “Welp…don’t think too hard about that one, you might hurt yourself” and got out the door as fast as I could.

When I came out to my parents for the first time, I was a little bit drunk and they took it with a pinch of salt. My friends easily accepted my bisexuality, they weren’t surprised, to be honest 🙂 But as to my parents – I guess they’re still deceiving themselves that I’m straight and they’ll have lots of grandchildren in the future…

When I came out to my friend about being “confused” she then immediately came out to me about being bisexual. We’ve both only told two people ever, and in trying to give up a secret, now I’ve gained one, and it’s both rewarding and frustrating…

When I came out to my friends, a good majority of them were supportive. However, 2 or 3 of my friends were creeped out or trying to convert me to straight from my bisexual transgendered self. I still talk to them, but I do not bring up my sexuality to them anymore. I still haven’t told my parents about my boyfriend, but that’s mainly because he lives so far away that it wouldn’t make sense to tell them yet about him. I’ll tell them eventually, but I’m pretty sure since they know I’m bisexual, they won’t mind as much.

When I came out, I was 18. I only told a few people at the time, but they said they pretty much already knew. I still haven’t told my family, and I don’t know when or if I ever plan to. Overall, I’m just glad I came out to myself. Time will work everything else out. 🙂

When I came out to my mom this morning, she said she never suspected. She then said that once I live an honorable life and respect myself and others she is happy, and that she loves me because of the person I am and that will not change. I am so grateful. The relief is indescribable! She is the first person I’ve told. Now to tell the rest.

When I came out I only told six people. It was great. Half of them said, “I would have never suspected you, you have had sooooo many boyfriends.” They are all supportive, but I don’t think I’ll come out to my family anytime soon :'( for fear of rejection.

When I came out to my mother, which was about 3 days ago, she caught me by surprise and just asked. I had been meaning to tell her anyway so when she asked I told her the truth that I was. After hearing the news she told me she loves me but does not support my decision and how embarrassing and disappointed she was by the fact. Although it was hard to hear her say these things I hope that with time she will come to accept me since before I told her we were like best friends and I don’t want to lose that.

When I came out (last night), I was deathly scared. After about 8 years of hiding it, I finally told my best friend that I’m a lesbian. She was totally supportive and accepting. I am 20 years old and it feels wonderful to finally be accepting of myself!