When I Came Out

When I came out to my mom this morning, she said she never suspected. She then said that once I live an honorable life and respect myself and others she is happy, and that she loves me because of the person I am and that will not change. I am so grateful. The relief is indescribable! She is the first person I’ve told. Now to tell the rest.

When I came out I only told six people. It was great. Half of them said, “I would have never suspected you, you have had sooooo many boyfriends.” They are all supportive, but I don’t think I’ll come out to my family anytime soon :'( for fear of rejection.

When I came out to my mother, which was about 3 days ago, she caught me by surprise and just asked. I had been meaning to tell her anyway so when she asked I told her the truth that I was. After hearing the news she told me she loves me but does not support my decision and how embarrassing and disappointed she was by the fact. Although it was hard to hear her say these things I hope that with time she will come to accept me since before I told her we were like best friends and I don’t want to lose that.

When I came out (last night), I was deathly scared. After about 8 years of hiding it, I finally told my best friend that I’m a lesbian. She was totally supportive and accepting. I am 20 years old and it feels wonderful to finally be accepting of myself!

When I came out I was 16 on the last day of school (my parents are teachers) and I had been debating for so long how and when to tell them. I felt like I just had to get that weight off me and the adrenaline of the last day of school was with me, so I texted them on my way to my friend’s house. It said, “With [my friend] and going to her house, I’m gay, not a big deal just more info about me.” I didn’t see them until later that evening and it was weird; they weren’t accepting, but they weren’t mad, just caught by a huge surprise and in shock. I don’t regret texting even though it’s kind of bad, but I never would have been able to do it any other way, I think (I may have changed the timing).

When I came out it was to a group of my four closest friends at a party. We were playing truth or dare and they asked me who I liked. I told them I was a lesbian and that I liked a certain girl. They were all really supportive; one of them even wanted to throw me a coming out party. I was 13 at the time; now I’m 15 and I’ve told my older brother. I’ve yet to tell my parents; I’m still trying to work up the courage.

When I came out as bi, I told my best friend… who is also the girl I have a crush on. She was really supportive, even when I told her I liked her. She was shocked, but only because “I didn’t think anyone could ever find me attractive, no matter what gender.” Then she apologized for not being able to return the feelings.

When I came out I was somewhat accepted by the school. I was thrown out of my house, and lost a few babysitting jobs. My friends accepted me for who I was; a lot of them laughed because they saw the “signs” and knew long before. My coming out story is long and crazy but all in all it was good no matter how many bad things happened. I wouldn’t change it for the world. I’ve been out for a year now.

When I came out I knew I would still be loved. It was more about accepting myself than having others accept me. Now, in the span of almost 6 months, I have come to terms, told my old friends, my immediate family, and even my new friends. It will be scary to be open to everybody, but I know I can do it. I am not the only one, and I most certainly won’t be the last. Stay strong. You can do it.

When I came out, I was deathly afraid of being rejected. My best friend had come out to me like three weeks past, and I was struggling with the idea myself. In the end, I grew to be open with my friends… and have found that my family is not as supportive, but as I was once told: “Love is love. Family is family… but the ones that love us are our family.” It’ll all come to pass someday… just have to wait for it.