When I Came Out

When I came out, it was to my best friend. I told her, “Hey, let’s play a game of truth or truth. Here’s a hint: I’m trying to get you to ask me if I’m gay so I can say yes.” And she said, “WHAT!?!? Are you serious?” And I said yeah, and she said, “Well, you’ve got to understand that I love gays, more than gays love gays.” I’m so glad that she was so accepting.

When I came out, my granddad held me up against a wall while my nan sobbed on the floor. I was 13. I’ve been in a relationship with a girl who identifies as a man for six years. I am proud to be a pansexual woman; I think it is beautiful that I can love anyone and everyone.

When I came out, I was engaged to a man. It never felt exactly “right” being with a man, but I’d convinced myself this thing I thought was missing wasn’t real. I came out to my best friend of 3 years over a bottle of wine just 2 months after she came out to me. We were both 22, and we had fallen in love. Now, she’s my girlfriend, and the best one anyone could ask for.

When I came out, it was to my best friend. I sent her a text telling her I was going to tell her my biggest secret and the next day I had to choke out the words “I like girls”. She was fine with it and was cracking jokes by lunchtime!

When I came out, I finally realized who I was at 23, and when I told my whole family they already knew. They were very supportive. What got me was how I beat myself up over it for years, and thinking to myself how much I was worried, hated, and felt judged, when I was the one who was doing it to myself. It’s a freeing feeling. You feel like your puzzle piece found a place to fit in, and it’s the first step at becoming you.

When I came out I made my friend a rainbow card that said, “Surprise, I’m gay.” I’m glad she took it well because I worked about 2 hours trying to get the pieces of the stupid rainbow to line up and if she ended up rejecting me it would have been a complete waste of my time.

When I came out to my best friend a couple of days ago, I was finally free. After messaging for 4 hours I finally drew the strength to send the message, “I’m gay”. I stopped messaging right after that and ignored her messages. The next day, she saw me and she said she didn’t care and knew from day one, as well as thanking me for proving the accuracy of her “gaydar”.

When I came out to my best friend who I’ve known for about a decade and have a massive crush on, we were at a party. He thought I was joking and outed me to everyone there. Most of them didn’t believe it because they were piss drunk; however, some still have their doubts. I’ve forgiven my friend and feel like we’ve become even closer.

When I came out it was to my mom 3 years ago in 5th grade, and she accepted me. Then I came out to my two sisters a couple months after and then I just recently came out to my older brother about a month ago. Tonight he kept bothering me and saying how he wanted to fight me because “boys fight” and he kept yelling at me, “You don’t like boys” and BS like that. Basically he pissed me off and even though he apologized after, I’m still and probably always gonna be upset.

When I came out I told my “best friend” at the time that I was dating a girl. We were sitting next to each other when I told her and she moved away from me as soon as I told her. Right now the world knows I’m lesbian and I don’t speak to the girl I told anymore.