When I Came Out

When I came out, I went to my older sister crying and I could not get the words out. She started freaking out, “Hun. What’s wrong? Are you okay? Are you pregnant?” I started to laugh… “Pregnant? I don’t even like guys.” She was beyond happy for me.

When I came out, I was terrified. I told my best friend who I knew would tell the entire school. This was a really small school in the rural Upper Peninsula of Michigan, so the news traveled fast. For a super religious area, I was accepted by most of my peers, including my super religious friends. I just wish that my Dad and Step-mom would have taken it that well.

When I came out, it was as bisexual to a friend at school. I couldn’t get the words out and she said, “Do you bat for that team?” And I said I bat for both teams. Many months later, I now have a girlfriend and think that I actually might be a lesbian.

When I came out, it was to two of my best friends who feigned tolerance and acceptance at the time but subsequently stopped being friends with me and told all of our mutual friends (even though I had explicitly asked for it to remain a secret). My ex-girlfriend found out and has been trying to reach me to question the fidelity of our past relationship. Now I’m not sure who knows and who doesn’t and am afraid that my parents will find out somehow, which would not be good.

When I came out as genderqueer a few weeks ago, I was the only one it was a shock to. My husband of ten years just hugged me and said, “Well, duh.” My best friends were so proud and honored to be a part of my coming out. The rest of the world might not approve, but I’ve been dealing with that for all 31 years of my life and am not afraid to embody my truth!

When I came out to myself, I had finally become comfortable with my own sexual orientation. I plan to tell my best friend of 4 years that I’m straight, then say, “April fools!” I know she will accept me as a lesbian, because she has another friend who is bi, and she explained how much she thinks gay is okay. Thank the Lord for people like her 🙂

When I came out on New Year’s Eve to all my friends, as gay, I already was out, as bi, but I realized I was lying to myself. About a month or so later, I came out to my parents, who either ignore it, or think I’m faking it. At least my friends are awesome…

When I came out, I realized that almost everyone that I knew didn’t really think it was a big deal. I’m a 14 year old girl and I identify as bisexual, and I came out when I was 13. My sexuality has always been an open secret, and the first step in coming out is always the hardest. I no longer have to hide my sexuality at school, but I’m still not out at home and no one in my family knows. Hopefully, there’ll be a day where I’ll be able to love openly and freely at home as well as school!

When I came out, I told my best friend of 17 years in the parking lot of the mall before we went Christmas shopping. My voice was quivering and I started to cry. She started crying and she said she was honored I wanted to tell, she loves me so much, and that I am more normal than ever.

When I came out to my older sister I was in my lounge at university with a friend and my girlfriend. We were about to go to sleep when I said that I needed to tell her something. I tried to say it but the words stuck in my mouth until my girlfriend put her hand on my shoulder and lent me some of the strength I needed. I said, “I’m bi” and she just said, “Okay, I love you, and I thought you were going to say something bad! I’m glad you’re happy!” And I really couldn’t be happier.