When I Came Out

When I came out to my lesbian friend, she was so supportive of my effort and action. However, when I told my mother, I was in tears. Since then, our relationship has not been the same. She believes my friends influence my decision to be gay, but I beleive I am who I am and I cannot change who I am. Hopefully one day she’ll turn around and realize I am still her son.

When l came out the first time it was to my openly gay teacher. I was a junior. She was a sweetheart about it saying that it didn’t matter if I was not straight, people would only see me as a smart and talented individual.

When I came out, it wasn’t what I’d been expecting. Some mates were sitting around me and asked me if I had a girlfriend or not, so I answered truthfully and said that there was someone I liked. I dragged one of my friends away from the rest, went to a quiet place and thought about how I was going to approach it. He was always going on about cats, and how he loved them so much, so I simply said to him, “You know you like cats, well, I don’t share your interest in pussy… I’m gay.” He was really supportive, and nearly collapsed from laughter. I’ve never been happier since.

When I came out for the first time it was to my older sister. She had a dream awhile back where I said I was gay and it seemed like a great starter to coming out. I told her today that I’m not gay but I am bi. She said that I have her support without question. Now to tell the rest of my family.

When I came out to my best friend, I had to do it by text, because I was way too nervous to tell her in person (which was what I had first planned to do). I texted her right after school and she said that she would always love me no matter what and that it doesn’t even matter to her. We talk about my celebrity crushes (Rooney Mara and Amber Heard!) and real crushes with so much ease now.

When I came out, I told my straight best friend and roommate. He was really accepting and told me we’ll be friends no matter what. He kinda knew already, and was just waiting for me to say something. He even said if anyone ever messes with me about being gay, he’ll kick their ass for me. I’m happier than I’ve ever been in my life.

When I came out I was finally feeling that I’m me even though I lost some of my “friends” cause of that. Before that I’ve seen so many videos about coming out and stuff just to know other experiences. So I came out to some of my close friends and they were really supportive. Then I told my siblings and finally my parents. My dad told me that since I’m happy in relationship he doesn’t care who I love. My mom didn’t get over it after almost 7 months, so I’m still waiting.

When I came out, the first person I told was my best friend. She is so accepting and she’s awesome!! I told my dad a few months later and it was with a counselor and he helped me, and my dad is also really accepting!! I then told my mom a few days later and she’s accepting too.

When I came out to my conservative Christian teacher, he had the same reaction as my awesome (Jewish) dad and they both took it several times better than my (Jewish as well) mom. The only reason I’m still under my family’s roof is my Dad, and my teacher offered me whatever support I needed that he could give (food, shelter, clothes, etc.). My Mom’s reaction continues to hurt, and I hate the fact that she seems to be getting more homophobic towards me. (I hope I haven’t destroyed her acceptance of the LGBTQQI community.) I also CANNOT WAIT to graduate high school and move out somewhere else far, far away.

When I came out to my best friend, she automatically asked me, “So are you in love with me or something?” I tried my best to explain to her that I like a certain type of girl, just like she likes a certain type of guy, but she wasn’t having it. It made me upset because we had been best friends since 2nd grade, we were neighbors, and we decided to be roommates in college together. Today I found out that she submitted a roommate change request form to our RA. She hasn’t had a real conversation with me since the day I told her I was gay.