When I Came Out

When I came out, I was in 9th grade. I ended up telling my friend. Turns out he is bisexual and 3 years later, we’re dating. I’m just glad we were able to run into each other in our lives.

When I came out, I was in 8th grade. There was a guy I had a crush on and I found out he was bisexual. We were talking one day and I told him flat out I was gay. And now, 18 years old and seniors in high school, we are living together and couldn’t be happier with each other.

When I came out for the first time, it was on April Fool’s Day to my best friend. I sent her a snapchat that said, “I have something to tell you… but I don’t know if I can because I don’t want you to think it’s an April Fool’s joke so maybe I’ll tell you tomorrow…” She sent one back, saying, “No! You already brought it up, tell me!” and I replied, “I like girls. A lot.” She didn’t reply for about 10 minutes so I was a bit worried but she finally replied, “I know. I still love you!” and it was just awesome to know that she was still there for me and still loved me the same.

When I came out, my dad hugged me, and it has been a long time since he did that. My mom was still in the state of shock, but both of them tolerated me. But they both said that this is just a “phase” I’m going through, although I know deep in my heart that I’m really gay, I just didn’t voice that out of respect for them. What I was inculcating in mind the whole time was that at least they now know and that they want me to be happy for who I am.

When I came out I was actually forced out. Mom found rather intimate letters I wrote to my college girlfriend and came to me about it one random night. I cried because I felt violated and attacked but 6 years later she’s the most accepting person in my entire family.

When I came out as pansexual, my mom told me it was “a phase because you hang out with gay people,” even though she has gay friends and even went to a lesbian wedding. When I came out as androgynous and wanted to be called “Shane” and not “Sabrina”, she wouldn’t take it. I wrote on a bio that my name was “Shane”, and wanted to show it to her. Her response was, “The name’s wrong, but everything else is good.” I wanted to cry…

When I came out to my mom she was understanding but had some questions. I answered the questions and my mom told me that she loves me no matter what.

When I came out to my guy friends, they were all fine with it, some even saying that it’s “hot”. I accidentally told a female friend in maths class while talking about Billie Joe Armstrong’s bisexuality. I told her I was just joking, even though she was cool with it. When I eventually told my female friends they were a bit awkward but fine with it and the girl I accidentally told said that even before then, they all kind of suspected that I’m not straight. My mum and siblings suspect it as well, but anxiety is a b*tch.

When I came out my father said that he would love me if I fell in love with an elephant.

When I came out my parents had two different reaction: my mom told me that she already knew but my father didn’t understand me and he was very angry. Now our relationship is good but I can’t talk about this argument… I’m not very happy.