When I Came Out

When I came out to my mom, it was through a note I posted on the front door before going to school. When she came back from work, I was already at home. We sat and talked, and, at first, she was very cautious. Eventually, we both started crying. I found out she had told my whole family in the afternoon. We hugged A LOT and she told me she loved me no matter what. Then I had to go back to studying Physics.

When I came out, I was playing a drinking game with some of my closest friends. As part of the game, I got asked what I look for in a guy, and decided to tell them that I was bi. I was nervous and the whiskey gave me the extra courage I needed, and it went great. I got a positive response and a high five. My next goal is to come out to someone sober.

When I came out as bi, I told my lesbian best friend that I needed to talk to her. She kept nagging me all day and she asked, “Is it about a girl? Is it about a guy?” I responded, “It’s actually about both.”

When I came out to my friend, I just quickly blurted out I was gay. She then told me it was a phase and a story of her being molested because she thought I was gonna molest her. She was the first person I told. We don’t talk anymore. 🙁

When I came out as ftm transgender, I first told my sister. I asked her what she thought it would be like to have a brother. She immediately thought that our mom was pregnant. I laughed, kinda nervously, and said no, you already have one. She hugged me and said, “Good, because I never wanted an older sister, only an older brother.” I was a little hurt, but it made me feel good that she accepted me as a guy.

When I came out, I was poking my friend’s cheek. My other friend screamed, “STOP POKING HER CHEEK OR PEOPLE WILL THINK YOU’RE A LESBIAN!!!” I was pissed; it was pretty narrow minded of her. Eventually I forgave her. I said, “Remember that time I was poking her cheek and you were like stop poking her cheek people will think you’re lesbian? Well, I actually am.” She was surprised and so happy I told her.

When I came out, I came out to my gay best friend. I wasn’t happy with myself for being lesbian. I had always been told that homosexuality is wrong (it’s not), and me and my friend would spend every Friday night together talking about LGBT+ and what it means. He also taught me to accept myself for who I am, not what society wants me to be. I was finally confident with who I am, and was ready to come out to everyone. Me and my friend made an announcement during an assembly, and I came out to everyone.

When I came out, I came out to my best friend. She is very religious, and I had assumed that she was homophobic. Turns out she wasn’t. She was very accepting of who I am. She said, “God put everything on this earth, meaning that the gays are here for a reason. That reason is to teach everyone that love is love no matter what.”

When I came out to my mom it took me more than forty minutes to just say one sentence.

Me: If one day I came up to you and said, “This is my girlfriend”, how would you respond?

She laughed.

When I came out as a lesbian to my friends I was nervous and scared as to what their response would be. But they were nothing but supportive and my best friend even came out as asexual. I still haven’t told my parents, as they’re very homophobic, but I’m glad to have such supporting people in my life.