When I Came Out

When I came out to my roommate last year, I was 16 (I go to boarding school). We were sitting in our room, and when I told him I needed to tell him something, he said “shoot”. When I said the words “I’m gay, Jared” he immediately was so sweet; he told me he loved me, that he wasn’t moving out, and how I was still his best friend. I love him, and I’m super thankful for him.

When I came out, I had my sister tell my Christian mother I am transgender because I was too afraid to do it myself. She said that I’m too young to know, but later on we talked about it, and she tried her best to be supportive. A handful of my friends know my identity, but I have yet to tell the rest of my family.

When I came out, my friend was visiting me. I was chatting with my boyfriend and he tried really hard to make me come out. When his parents came to pick him up I said, “Wait! I have to tell you something”. I showed him the chat log with my boyfriend. He is dyslexic so he saw a bunch of hearts and emojis. He asked me, “Who is it?” I said, “It’s a he, and he’s my boyfriend”.

He just smiled and said, “I promise I won’t tell anyone”. It felt so great.

When I came out I blurted it out to my brother and he hugged me and told me he had no idea but supported me. Now he pressures me to come out to my parents. I know they will still love me but I also know they don’t believe in pansexuality or bisexuality, and they think being gay is a choice. I don’t think I can live with them thinking that about me….

When I came out as bisexual to my mother, she laughed and called it “a phase”, saying she’d get me some counselling. Since then, I’ve realized that I am actually genderfluid, as well as panromantic and graysexual. I have come out to most, if not all, of my friends, including the religious ones. My close guy friend even offered to give me some of his boy clothes for my boy days. I have yet to come out again to my family, but I’m working up the courage to do it.

When I came out as asexual to my mom and sister… it didn’t go so great. My mom basically told me I was too young to know (I was 20) and my sister said that it was weird and it didn’t matter to anyone unless you were dating them. So I won’t be mentioning that to them ever again, but I have a lot of supportive friends at college which helps.

When I came out to my internet friends I was shaking out of fear because I was afraid they would hate me, but it turns out that two of them are bi and now we are planing on making a queer army.

When I came out to my brother, it was a lot different than I had pictured. I had been telling my homophobic parents I have been dating a girl. My brother got suspicious so he confronted me about it. All in one afternoon I said I was bi, had been talking to a guy, then finally came out. I asked if he hated me; he gave me a hug. My parents still don’t know.

When I came out, I told my older sister who was at college through text and then had a 2-hour phone conversation with her about it later. I can tell that she is uncomfortable with it, but she still loves and accepts me. I’ve also told 4 close friends, a man from my church that I deeply trust, and now my little sister. I’ve gotten nothing but love and support and I’m very grateful.

When I came out it was first to my brother at 1 o’clock New Year’s Day. He was very supportive so I then told my two closest friends. They were both fine with it but my best friend told me I shouldn’t tell my parents because it might be a phase. I was about to tell them but now I don’t know….. :/