When I came out as bisexual (biromantic asexual, to be specific) to my best friend in middle school, she immediately grimaced and then later left my house crying; she proceeded to block me on all social media and avoided me entirely. It hurt and made it hard for me to continue to explore my identity, but I have tried out and landed on other labels since then (trans, gray-asexual, and panromantic), and, fortunately, coming out to loved ones in the future has (mostly) gone far, far better. I now have a close group of friends that are all queer, a nonbinary partner that I love deeply and that deeply loves me, and a family that supports me completely even if they don’t always understand. It can get better; there are people out there that will love you for your whole self, so find them, or let them find you. Love and acceptance is possible, finding those like you is inevitable, and feeling truly cherished is beautiful. (M/21/Transgender/queer)
Story #2228
When I came out it was a few months ago now and I left home due to it and got hated on and misgendered, but now a few months later I got my first binder and I’m doing better. I just had to give everyone a bit of time to adjust. In a week I should be getting my name and pronouns changed at school, yay! 🙂 (He/they/14/FtM)
Story #2227
When I came out to my parents they accepted me, but it’s hard to tell now because they won’t use my correct pronouns. My mom even told me that it will take her time because she always knew me as her daughter. I told her I understood. That was at Thanksgiving of last year, but now both of my parents still misgender me. It hurts like hell. I don’t know how to tell them that whenever they use she/her I die a little inside each day, my depression and dysphoria gets worse and worse, and I think my parents don’t understand I am trying to be strong but it just hurts so much. (FtM/36/Trans man/gay)
Story #2216
When I came out it was hard. I had realized not too long ago. I had gotten my hair cut. But it wasn’t the length I wanted, so I cut it off. My mom took away technology from me for a while. Saying the internet influenced me to do so. I have always been a tomboy, and I hated my body since 5th grade. I just thought it was body dysphoria. I may have not had gender dysphoria my whole life, but the euphoria was always there. I came out to family and some friends. But haven’t been able to transition yet. (F/Lesbian/transgender)
Story #2191
When I came out I was really scared because I go to a Catholic school. Most my friends were supportive. I told them name (Ethan) and my pronouns (he/him). They respect me and my choices even though I get the occasional “Why can’t you just stay a girl?” Right now I’m attending online group therapy sessions, which really helps. Hopefully today I have the courage and strength to ask my dad for a chest binder (wish me luck🤠) (Male/14/FtM)
Story #2178
When I came out I was really nervous, but it worked out ’cause like all my friends are LGBTQ+. I still need to come out to my parents. I tried to come out to my mom but she doesn’t understand. I hope to come out soon though. (FtM/14/Bi)
Story #2158
When I came out to my parents, my mother accepted me. My father still has not spoken to me. Good riddance. (MtF/27/Gay)
Story #2128
When I came out I was 16 and my best friends accepted me and supported me, so did my sister. I haven’t told my parents yet but it might not end well. I’m just happy that I’m proud of who I am. I finally feel free. (M/16/Transgender/bisexual)
Story #2124
When I came out, I was barely 6 years old. I’m being serious! I had been wearing boy clothes, and calling myself a boy, and Spencer. Finally, I went up to my mom and told her that I was a boy. She laughed me off. It took another two years before I tried again. I had still worn boy clothes and called myself Spencer, and she still laughed me off. My friends, however, hadn’t, and neither had my teachers. It took me 3 more years before my mom finally got sick of it. I live with my dad now. I’ve been on hormone therapy for a year, and next year I’m supposed to get top surgery. I’m sad it didn’t work out with my mom, and honestly, kinda depressed that I haven’t seen her for 6 years, but I’ll live. I’m just happy I get to be who I’ve always been: a boy. (M/17/FtM)
Story #2113
When I came out about a year ago we were in a pub eating dinner and the friendly lesbian couple next to us were talking to my mum. I took that as an opportunity to tell them I was gay. My mum started crying because she was super proud of me and now talks to me about my ‘girl crushes’. 😂 It was such a good feeling having that weight off my chest. I also came out as a trans man recently but I’m not allowed to transition yet because I’m ‘too young’. (Trans FtM/15)