When I came out to my mother as nonbinary (she already knew I liked girls; this was before I figured out I was oriented aroace and liked nonbinary peeps too), she seemed okay with it and actually sort of seemed like she already suspected. My stepfather came into the same room about half way through to make a fire, and my mom just kept talking about it even though I didn’t want him to hear because he has said some questionable things about trans people in the past. He definitely heard the conversation, but didn’t comment, didn’t talk to me, and just kept sighing and rolling his eyes. He hasn’t brought it up since; in fact, he seems to call me a girl every chance he gets (practically in every sentence e.g. “You’re a smart girl…”, “Come on, girl!”, etc.), and my mom also calls me a girl and doesn’t use they/them pronouns with me. I’m still figuring out whether I should bring it up with them, come out to my stepfather properly, or if I wasn’t explicit enough. (Nonbinary-Trans and Agenspec Polygender/11/Omniaspec Enbitrix Oriented Aroace)
Story #2469
When I came out I first told my friend. I had already told her that I was a lesbian so it wasn’t that hard. Then I said it to my sister that gay too. They all accepted me. It took me long time to tell my parents and everyone is being supportive. But no remembers to use my real name and that makes me uncomfortable. (Non-binary/12)
Story #2468
When I came out I was 9, and before that I never realized that there were other genders or loves. It only came to my mind when my now best friend moved across the street and one of her older siblings was non-binary and I was like, that’s a thing! I realized that was how I felt and I told my best friend, then I sat my parents down and said, “I’m non-binary.” They were like, “Okay” and they have been super supportive ever since. (Non-binary/12/Pansexual)
Story #2466
When I came out, it was to a close friend. She had just come out to me as bisexual a week or so earlier, and I had already told them about being aroace, so I knew she was part of the community. She texted me to tell me she was actually a lesbian, and I responded cool, then I asked them what they would do about non binary pronouns. She said she would use their real pronouns, and asked, ‘hey, aren’t you nb too? I’m actually a demigirl.’ Her support also helped me tell another one of my friends. Hopefully you all can find your people who will support you. (NONBINARY/I HAVE NO GENDER ONLY RAGE/14/Aromantic Asexual Agender Nonbinary Trans [FtNB])
Story #2465
When I came out to my friend whom I have known since daycare it was very hard because I hadn’t come out in a while. When I was in my room with him (I have not seen him in two years), and I was playing with a doll he said, “That is some ‘gay sh*t'” and I replied “That’s me,” and he asked “You’re gay?” in a snarky voice, and I said, “Well, actually I’m non-binary” as I ran to the bathroom. I was thinking how he uses “gay” as an insult and how he is the exact boy I would NOT hang out with, but luckily all my other friends and family are really accepting. (Nonbinary/12)
Story #2463
When I came out to my grandparents about being nonbinary and having a new name, they said, “Oh (dead name), we will always support you. Won’t we support HIM?” (talking to grandpa). It made me feel uncomfortable about being nonbinary and I did not even correct them. I came out when I was 6, and they still make mistakes now. (Nonbinary/12)
Story #2459
When I came out, I first came out to my brother. At the time, both of us were living as girls. I built a little house in minecraft with my pride flag as the color scheme, and he did the same. We later talked about it on a walk, and then came out to our other family together. (Masc enby/15/Aroace/polyam)
Story #2457
When I came out everything felt weirder. I feel like everyone I told (myself included) just tried to avoid the topic. I felt like I was half in and half out of the ‘closet’. Different people in my life responded differently and knew different amounts: my mom knew but didn’t think that nonbinary people could have gender dysphoria, my dad sort of knew but thought it was ‘just a phase’ and didn’t take me very seriously, my dad’s partner was supportive, my mom’s partner didn’t know and thought that ‘there’s no possible way that there are that many transgender people. I mean, there’s always going to be one or two, but…’, and so one. I was (and still am) so scared of rejection. I came to a point where I felt that I had ‘come out’ too much to pretend it had never happened yet too far to fully come out without making it seem like I was craving attention, or doing too much. Because I never knew how to properly come out, no one knows my full identity, just that I use they/them pronouns (sort of), that I don’t dress femininely (at least most of the time), and that I wasn’t straight (even though I never clearly stated my orientation). (Nonbinary Genderflor Genderflux Trans/11/Arospec Ace-spec Abroromantic Lesbian)
Story #2441
When I came out to my bff, she was so proud. She asked me who the lucky girl is and I told her. This was about November of 2022. A few months after I told a few more people. One of my other friends said that she had to talk to me. She didn’t know my crush. So she asked if I liked anyone and I told her. She said that my crush likes my back. Now in February I came out to my parents by leaving a note on their bed before I went to my friend’s house. My mom texted my friend and said that she loves and supports me. Then when I got home my dad was all like “but are you sure?” (Non-binary/13/Lesbian)
Story #2435
When I came out I came out to my best friends first. They were really supportive of it and supported me all the way. I came out to my parents the other day; I had someone bring up the conversation because I didn’t know what to say. My mom said she already knew I was lesbian but she wasn’t gonna call me by my changed name or pronouns. She said that she was not gonna refer to me as non-binary, which really hurt. (Non-binary/14/Lesbian)