When I came out as non-binary, my girlfriend at the time talked about how I seemed so masculine and that using the non-binary label was just a fad. She is queer so I was hoping that over time she would grow to accept it, but the opposite happened. I was lucky to have a remote job so I could move out to be with family who still struggle with pronouns but accept me. I still struggle to understand my own gender fluidity because my gender feelings have always been strong, but feel like they change on a dime. At this point I’m out as non-binary though I don’t pass yet and the fluidity is not a thing I understand how to talk generally. However, this is the first time in my life that feels like I’m loving it in a way that is authentic to myself, and if you relate to my story at all, please be brave! ❤️ (Non-binary/genderfluid/27/Bisexual/demi-sexual/polyamorous)
Story #2606
When I came out I was in 7th grade. I have never been the best at communicating but I somehow managed to build enough confidence to write a paper to my mom saying I was a lesbian. When I came home she was mad that I didn’t tell her in person. She said she was supportive but it didn’t feel like it. Then I came out to her again this year as pan, poly, and non-binary. She is fine and supportive with everything but me being poly. She says it’s disgraceful to be poly. (Non-binary/16/Pan and poly)
Story #2600
When I came out, it was technically to myself. I was 12 or 13 and I realized that I didn’t experience any attraction to people until I really got to know them. I at first thought it was normal until I developed a crush on my childhood best friend, who was a boy. I was like: “Eww… I’m gay? That’s gross…” but after a little bit of research, I realized I was demisexual and I was surprised. I do contemplate if I’m either demi or pan but my mind is like: Go, Demi! Nowadays, I’m deciding if I’m either nonbinary or pangender. (Nonbinary or pangender/14/Demisexual)
Story #2588
When I came out as bisexual to some of my friends a year ago, everything went great. But when I came out as non-binary to my best friend (that was 6 months ago) she said she wasn’t supportive of these ”ideologies” and stuff. We are still friends but it’s not the same as it was. I am the only queer person from my friend group but I found myself other queer friends and let me tell you it was the best that could happen to me. (Non-binary/19/Bisexual)
Story #2578
When I first came out when I was 12 I came out as ftm and bi. Well, not exactly, I was outed because I had a severe mental breakdown and couldn‘t handle lying anymore. Afterwards I got told I was “confused” and that I was going through a “phase”. I also had to befriend and unfriend some people because my mom thought they were a bad influence and made me that way. The people I befriended turned out to be some degree of homophobic too. Nowadays I‘m 14 and I still feel this way. I often cry because I feel dysphoric. I‘m scared of coming out too because of what happened last time, but I think my family would be more supportive this time. (They/he/14/Masc non-binary/pansexual)
Story #2576
When I came out I was exhausted. I was stressed with school (grades, choices, career paths, etc.) and I had been having some issues with my sister screaming at us a lot and ruining our family evenings. My mom had also just returned from the hospital after suffering a stroke while we were on vacation. I was losing sleep, and I was lying in bed with my dad, and he told me that everything was going to be okay. I told him that I was dysphoric and that I may be non-binary. He was very supportive, but I told him not to tell anybody else because I’m still unsure what they would say. I am writing this the same evening of this happening. I should probably go to school, but I nearly cried of joy. (Non-binary/Bi)
Story #2558
When I came out I was 23, my mom and dad were shocked but they quickly supported me, I was bisexual and identified as genderfluid; now, I identify as bisexual, asexual, and non-binary. I hope everything goes well to my closeted friends. Be you, and don’t try to fit in the box! (Non-binary/25/Bisexual/asexual)
Story #2557
When I came out as non-binary, I had to come out twice. I’d known I wasn’t my assigned gender since I was eight years old, back in year three. I came out to my parents for the first time when I was 12. They told me it was “just a phase” and that I was “persuaded into this by the media”. I truly thought that they would be supportive since they already knew I was bi. My friends were supportive, but everyone only seems to use my preferred name and pronouns when texting, never at school or to my face. The second time I came out to my parents, I finally got through to them. I was allowed to style my hair how I wanted… but that was it. No name change, they don’t use my correct pronouns… but one day everyone will respect me for who I am, one day I will be who I want to be, look how I want to look. This is like a mantra I repeat to myself. “One day… I will be me.” (Non-binary/13/Bisexual)
Story #2556
When I came out in my junior year, I got bullied and teased. I never felt like I belonged with the boys nor the girls and I just kind of sat in the middle. When I came out to my parents, they were supportive and a bit edgy. Now, I identify as non-binary for the meantime (I’m still searching up what my gender is) and I’m homoromantic. (Non-binary/22/Homoromantic)
Story #2551
When I came out to my parents, it made me realize a lot. I didn’t get the choice to come out on my own terms, as they found out on their own and I was forced to come out. I felt pretty heartbroken when they responded with disgust and disbelief, almost like it was phenomenon. After that they just ignored who I was and it was just pretty awkward after that. I wish it ended up differently but it made realize that I should accept myself because that’s who I am. Do not let people dictate on who you are. Be yourself. (Non-binar/transmasc/13/Abrosexual)