When I came out, my mom dismissed me and said I was following trends, then said I was born a girl, always a girl, and deadnamed me and then threatened to take away my internet. (M/Trans)
Story #2358
When I came out, I was outed. My mother went through my phone and asked me, “So you want to have boy parts and dress like a boy?” I broke down and told her that I did want that. She wasn’t too happy. That was a year and a half ago. I’m still not fully accepted. People at school are horrible. I get barked at every day, I’m harassed, touched, and outed continuously, but it’s getting a little better every day. (M/FtM/15/Homoflexible/bisexual)
Story #2349
When I came out I was just hitting the stage in life where we kids were developing crushes. All my friends had crushes on boys but I always thought that this girl named Riley was pretty and I wanted to hold hands with her. I didn’t officially come out to my family until I was in 6th grade when my homophobic grandmother was being mean to a drag queen. She asked me if I was gay in the most disgusted voice imaginable and although I was scared I put my hands on my hips, stood up tall, and proudly said, “Yes, as a matter of fact I am.” She was so dumbfounded she had to wait until we got home to come up with a response. (Male [FtM]/14/Fraysexual panromantic)
Story #2347
When I came out was from the end of my 8th grade year to the beginning of 9th grade. I told some kids at my school who I thought I could trust. I ended up getting bullied, though. Despite all that I still have friends that support me. Coming out to my mom was the hardest part. Especially when my step dad makes rude comments to transgender people in public. She had a hard time accepting me at first but she is slowly adjusting. I am still coming out so some of my family to this day. (M/15/Transgender)
Story #2340
When I came out I wrote a letter to my mom. She asked me to come speak to her. She said she thinks I’m just doing it for attention and I’m such an attention seeker. Really, I have always hated being a girl and everyone just thought I was a big tomboy. Besides what my mom says, I dress as a very flamboyant boy now as that’s what I prefer. I want to cut my hair to a buzz cut desperately but my mom won’t let me 🙁 Anyways, hopefully when I leave home I can get top surgery and start T (M/15/Pansexual)
Story #2331
When I came out was only recently but I have always known I was gay. Sometimes deep down denial but always obvious to me — gay porn and gay sex kind of was convincing. Anyways, coming out slowly to my trusted friends was wonderful. But coming out to myself was first the most important step. If you are struggling, first ask yourself, can I come out to myself? Then everything else will follow. Peace and love. (M/57/Gay)
Story #2330
When I came out I basically wrote a note saying to a girl who had a crush on me. I remember exactly what I wrote: “I’m sorry but I’m not interested in you, nothing personal. I think I am gay because I kinda have a crush on the new kid in science class.” After she read it, she came up to me and said, “It’s ok, I support you.” I felt really relieved! (M/Gay)
Story #2329
When I came out I was about 7 years old and did not know what transgender was. I had short hair and lived in Wisconsin. I was mistaken for a boy very often, even on an all girls soccer team. Basically I told my mom that when people thought I was a boy I would just go along with it and say yes I was a boy. We were moving from Wisconsin to Missouri at the time, both not good spots for a trans kid. But my mom asked me my new name and everyone at my new school had no idea I was not cis. I only stayed in Missouri for a year than we moved to Minnesota, and here it is much better for me to be me! (M/11/Omnisexual/transgender)
Story #2311
When I came out, I don’t think I entirely did it intentionally. Which, yes, in retrospect is absolutely hilarious. And at that point, I think my mom might have already known. I started out thinking that I was cis; as years went on, though, my views changed, and I thought I might be nonbinary. And then, I realized I prefer male pronouns, and wanted to be comfortable in my own body! One day, I was just in the car, and I just sort of said it to my mom. I don’t really have any preferred names right now, and she was a bit confused by that. I’m still on the road to figuring myself out, but it’s getting easier every day! Thank you for listening 🙂 (Male [FtM]/12/Bisexual)
Story #2309
When I came out I wrote a message to share with close friends and family first via text while I was on vacation for a week. Soon after, I posted my message to facebook for everyone to see. It was easier for me to come out all at once than having to deal with coming out to each person in my life, plus doing it while I was away gave time for people to digest it before facing them. This way may not be right for everyone, but there was a ton of relief in pulling the band-aid off all at once, especially for someone like myself who isn’t the most emotionally forthcoming. I had some really great conversations with the people after I posted it, and have never felt better. (M/25)