When I came out to my roommate the other night, I was really worried about how this could change our friendship. I’m 20 years old and it was my first coming out. I’ve known for 6 years but only recently felt safe and brave enough to actually talk about my feelings. I’m glad I did come out to her because it feels like I’m finally breaking free, and she assured me that she’s going to accept me no matter what. (F/20/Lesbian)
Story #2517
When I came out, I was a late bloomer. I was a teen in the 70’s, and … I never even considered telling anyone. Even in my 50’s, I wasn’t telling psychiatric practitioners. Along the way, only one close friend, who was extremely broad-minded, was let in on the secret. One Friday evening in 2018, when I was 59, it came to me like a gentle revelation as I watched a trans-related YouTuber. I was going to do it. I don’t live anywhere near family, but have a large contingent of friendly coworkers. I started slow, with very subtle nail color, and pierced my ears after a couple of months. I also started wearing women’s scents. All the changes were welcomed, and even cheered on, by the people at work. In the first year, I started laser hair removal on my face, and almost on the year anniversary, started hormone therapy. Shortly thereafter, I told my managers at work. The next winter, I ventured to work the first time en femme, in black slacks and an attractive top.. I was up to skirts in less than a week. And for Valentine’s day, I left Hershey’s kisses with “It’s a girl” stickers on the bottom, with a nice card for the entire staff. Very well-received. I have been so fortunate! Out and obvious before the lockdown. And this September … I had “the surgery.” I knew from the beginning I’d want that. I got there. (F/64/Lesbian)
Story #2513
When I came out to my mother as ftm, she told me that it was just “a trend” and that she will not “subscribe to your ideology.” She then refused to call me by my preferred pronouns (he/him). I was heartbroken, and that lasted for a while. However, that was 2 years ago… Today… I am Bigender. My pronouns are now she/him, and I feel very comfortable about it. I’ve came out to me friends, and they’re all supportive. It’s just my parents who still think and want me to be straight and cis. (Bigender/14/Lesbian/Demiromantic/Greysexual/Polyamorous)
Story #2511
When I came out I was 17 and living in a very strict religious household. I came out to my best friend from college who I had a massive crush on; turns out she felt the same way. I waited another year until I finished college and was at Uni before coming out to my family. Due to the strict religious nature of my upbringing I no longer talk with my family but am extremely happy with my now wife. (F/29/Lesbian)
Story #2509
When I came out I came out in two phases: once as bisexual (which I tried really hard to be) and now as lesbian. After a sequence of multiple abusive relationships, I told my friend that my attempt with this new guy was my absolute last shot with men. Five years later we moved across the country together, lived together, and had a wonderful healthy relationship. Going to college, we agreed to have an open relationship because I knew I liked women more but didn’t know how much more until this summer — in fact, until this summer I was wondering if I was just asexual because the only qualm he’d ever had in the relationship was that I wasn’t very physically affectionate. I learned very quickly that I am indeed not ace and instead a lesbian, a fact that was really hard for me to acknowledge because of how healthy my relationship with him was but I’m happy that he is still my best friend and now has a girlfriend who can love him for all that he is. (F/21/Lesbian)
Story #2506
When I first came out, I was in 6th grade. It was to one of my closest friends. She hugged me and said she would always love me. I told more of my friends, and only one said he didn’t support me. I told my mom before I told my dad. I told one of my favorite teachers before my dad as well. I talk to her about the girls I like now, lol. My mom thought I was young, but now supports me. My dad said it was awesome. (F/12/Lesbian)
Story #2502
When I came out I came out it was at a school skiing trip. I came out to a friend who I had a really big crush on and it turned out that those feelings were mutual. We had a great time sneaking about and kissing until a classmate spotted us and posted a video. Everyone was really shocked but generally supportive. (F/15/Lesbian)
Story #2499
When I came out my family didn’t believe me. So I started making out with my girlfriend in front of them. They soon quickly realised I wasn’t joking. Some of them are struggling to come to terms but that’s their issue. 👩❤️💋👩🏳️🌈👩❤️💋👩🏳️🌈 (F/23/Lesbian)
Story #2484
When I came out as gay to my family I felt so much better and less alone. I have been a lesbian my whole life and I have hid this from my family because I was afraid of not being accepted. I used to pretend to have crushes on guys just so I would be seen as normal. But this made me feel extremely alone and my mental health suffered. Now that I came out I can finally be myself and talk about girls I like. I am so much happier and my mental health has improved a lot. My family is very supportive and I’m thankful they love and accept me. (F/Lesbian)
Story #2482
When I came out for the first time I was 17. I had forced myself to have crushes on guys before but I slowly realised that I was in fact a lesbian. I first came out to my best friend who I had a crush on. I was so nervous, but she took it really well and it turned out she is also a lesbian and we started kissing. Unfortunately my mum walks in as we are doing this and is really shocked but supportive. Overall I couldn’t have had a better coming out and my girlfriend is amazing. (F/17/Lesbian)