When I came out, it was at a Halsey concert in 2018. I was with my twin brother and his girlfriend. She said to yell if you were lgbtq+, and I yelled. My brother and his girlfriend were SHOCKED. They asked me what I was and I said I was gay. The first thing my brother said was “omg this all makes sense now, I’ve always wanted a gay bro”. On the other hand, his girlfriend won’t talk to me any more. (M/19/Gay as hell)
Story #2276
When I came out as gay, my mom gasped (it was over the phone) and dismissed it. When I halfway came out as trans, my mom and grandma degraded queer people in an attempt to change my mind. I have been told that my brother and sister (among other people) are not allowed to know. My mother told me today that my brother and sister are not allowed to listen to Lil Nas X or Jojo Siwa because he (Lil Nas X) is gay and she (Jojo Siwa) is pansexual, and my poor sister loved Jojo Siwa. My friends are super supportive, and save me every day from a world of sadness, but it hurts that my friends accept me more than my own mother, and I’m sorry for anyone who is in this situation or worse. (F/15/Gay/trans)
Story #2265
When I came out to my mom as transgender ftm she said she accepted me, but she then had a breakdown and told me it’s for attention and that she and my dad won’t let me start hormones or blockers and that they won’t use my preferred name or pronoun. The rest of my family still calls me by my deadname and she/her. It’s hard and I struggle with it every day and am currently looking for a way to leave. I promise you’ll get through everything. Just stay strong; you’re loved and special and deserve the world. (FTM/15/Gay)
Story #2263
When I came out, my parents and family didn’t accept me for who I was. They said I wasn’t worth living and an ungrateful piece of s**t. I didn’t care what they said. Even though what they told me hurt, I still loved my parents. And I still didn’t care; I love myself and they have to respect my decision. (M/13/Gay/bi)
Story #2248
When I came out it was first to two of my close friends, one of which is non-binary. They both mainly took the news well, and didn’t tell anyone like I asked them but I think one of them feels a bit uncomfortable speaking about sexuality. After that I came out to a girl in my class that I knew would be supportive, over text (like an hour ago). She was really lovely about it and told me that she’d support me. I haven’t told anyone else yet, including my parents and my best friend, because I’m not sure how my parents will react. (F/Gay)
Story #2246
When I came out, I was seriously considering my gender identity for the first time, and decided I’d ask a cousin for advice. She said to “Go for it!” and then I went and wrote an entire page about my experiences questioning my gender and sent it to my discord (ThatOneAwkwardSnake#1093) and was met with tons of support from all my best friends, irl and out. Still haven’t come out to anyone else and the cousin I came out to first still thinks of me as “lesbian” which makes me uncomfy as it has a feminine connotation, and even though I’ve told her I prefer gay, she still uses lesbian. I don’t know if she understands non-binary. (Non-binary/11/Gay/trans FtNB)
Story #2241
When I came out to my older brother, he thought I was joking at first: he said I was too picky when it came to guys, and asked me what my type was, and I said, “Women.” He hugged me after and told me he accepted me and would keep my secret… and then started joking about it in front of my mom and making references to lesbian sex whenever he talked about me. I told him that I’d just been confused a couple months later. Sometimes, it’s just not the right time, and that’s ok. (Nonbinary/21/Gay/genderqueer/transgender)
Story #2240
When I came out, I was about to do standardized testing and my school let us use our phones while we waited. I had half an hour before I was going to take the test, and my friend said she was happy that our other friends were having lots of luck in relationships. To her knowledge, I had never liked someone, but I decided to tell her I liked someone and I was gay. She was happy, and I told a few other people. However, I’m fairly sure I failed that test badly because I could not focus for the life of me.
Story #2234
When I came out as a lesbian on social media I got almost no reaction from anyone. My sister commented neutrally on it, but that was all. I recently came out as enby on social media and again no one has lifted an eyebrow. It feels great to be myself. I plan on getting a binder soon. (Enby/16/Gay)
Story #2227
When I came out to my parents they accepted me, but it’s hard to tell now because they won’t use my correct pronouns. My mom even told me that it will take her time because she always knew me as her daughter. I told her I understood. That was at Thanksgiving of last year, but now both of my parents still misgender me. It hurts like hell. I don’t know how to tell them that whenever they use she/her I die a little inside each day, my depression and dysphoria gets worse and worse, and I think my parents don’t understand I am trying to be strong but it just hurts so much. (FtM/36/Trans man/gay)