Gay Coming Out Stories

When I came out to my father I was basically disowned. He had been using the possibility of me being gay as a vicious point scoring tirade against my mother during a drawn out and violent divorce. On the day they separated and we all moved out and away, I ended up in a heated argument with him, which lead to me saying in effect I was gay. He said I was no son of his and was siding with my mother. I hardly saw him after that as could not cope with the pain of the divorce and maybe because I felt massively rejected. I never had a chance to reconcile or further discuss the issue as he died a few years later. When I tried coming out to my mother I remembered her crying secretly and also during a conversation about my coming out to a friend while I was in the same house. I still don’t know if he fully understands or accepts I’m gay. (M/45/Gay)

When I came out it was to my mum one night. I hadn’t planned it but she asked if there was anything on my mind and I couldn’t keep it in any longer. I tried to tell her but I couldn’t say the words so I made her guess and I just nodded my head. We talked about it for 40 minutes and she said that she loved and supported me but it would take her a bit of time to be comfortable with it. My dad isn’t the next person I want to tell; hopefully that will go well too. (M/17/Gay)

When I came out I was 12, almost half a year ago… This was to one of my old friends through call since I had moved away a year ago. She was very accepting and then convinced me to come out to my crush at the time, who then tried to convince me to come out my parents but that was really hard. I ended up doing it, then I came out to my whole school. I only got a few blocks on social media but now I am known as the gay kid and that makes me happy. (M/13/Gay)

When I came out 6 months ago as gay to my parents, I’d made a plan to tell them that I was gay for 7 months, so in this year’s summer holidays I finally came out. It was pretty hard because my mother was in shock but my father was really accepting. After at least 5 conversations with them, they are finally accepting me the way I am, but my mom asked me not to tell everyone else. She doesn’t know that they were the last I’m coming out to. I came out to my friend and class 8 months ago and they were so lovely; everyone accepted and supports me the way I am. (M/16/Gay)

When I came out it was to my best friend this Halloween. We were trick or treating when we saw this really cute boy passing out candy. My friend whispered, “He’s so hot” to me, and when we left the doorstep and were walking to the next house she said that she wished I was gay so we could both talk about boys together. I was super nervous to tell her but I did about ten minutes later and she was so happy for me. Best Halloween EVER!! (M/12/Gay)

When I came out to my friends, we were at a sleepover and were playing truth or dare. It was my turn and I chose truth. One of my friends asked me what my biggest secret was. My heart started beating really fast and I got very nervous. I knew that If I didn’t tell them now, then I would regret it for the rest of my life, so I told them. They were so supportive and one of them even came out as bi. Family is next. (M/15/Gay)

When I came out I did it on social media. I received many positive responses from friends and acquaintances and no negatives. This has given much happiness and peace of mind because I’ve finally accepted that I’m gay, I know others know, and I am free to be who I truly am. (M/67/Gay)

When I came out it was first to my best friend. She was extremely supportive and even brought me snacks the next day to “celebrate” my coming out 🙂 She was also next to me when I told my guy best friend that I was gay (not gonna lie, that was by far the hardest), but turns out I’ve had great friends for the past couple of years 🙂 (M/17/Gay)