When I came out I was scared as my family were slightly homophobic. So when I came out as demi and bi, I didn’t know who was going to accept me, but they all accept me and slowly one day at a time I am telling my extended family. (F/Demi/bi)
Story #2111
When I came out I had a few friends I was out to and wanted to tell more, so when one of my friends came out to me, I felt a safe-space was with her. Big mistake for me. I told her (who I no longer trust) and another friend (who is very nice and is still my friend today, very accepting) after school one day and the next I have one of my friends coming up to me saying, “I didn’t know you were bi!” and I freak out. I played it cool, as if I meant for this to happen, trying to make sure others didn’t hear (I had some homophobic “friends” at the time), while having a panic attack and the friend I came out to the day before smirking. I asked her why she told the person who I hadn’t trusted with this secret yet and she told me that I should have told her sooner and that “I just helped you, you had to do it soon.” Later she became VERY homophobic and transphobic and made jokes about being gay, in a very homophobic way. Luckily know I have better friends and she is no longer near me. (Demiboy/Pan/demi)
Story #2096
When I came out I was on a group FaceTime with my boyfriend (also one of my best friends since way before we were going out), one of my other best friends (also a guy), and his now ex-girlfriend who I used to also be pretty good friends with. We were playing truth or dare because we had nothing better to do, and we got in a loop of truths when S (my guy friend) asked J (my boyfriend) if he would ever date a guy. J who is bi and at this time was already out to a lot of his friends replied yes. We then all went around asking each other if we would ever date someone of the same gender. When they got to me I could barely breathe. I said I would and everyone was very accepting. A few weeks later my boyfriend and I were texting and I worked up the courage to tell him that I’m also demisexual and it went very well. (F/14/Bi/demi)
Story #2090
When I came out I was 11/12, and my friends were pretty supportive. I came out as bi and ace, but pretty recently I realized that I am pan and demi. So now I have to re-come out, and it might be weird. Idk. I have yet to tell my parents. Only my sister knows what I truly am, and she is bi. At least one family member knows how I feel. Now it’s time to tell all the others. Wish me luck! (F/12/Pan)
Story #2089
When I came out I came out to my friends first, and they were all accepting and it was amazing, I’ve never come out to my parents but have been outed multiple times from them going through my phone. The most recent time they sent me to a Christian counselor to “fix” me and it hurts a lot because I want to be myself around them, and my mom always said she’d accept me no matter what, but she always gets upset when she finds out “I’m still confused.” I’m not confused, I’m Non-binary Panromantic Demisexual and proud about it, but I wish I had my parents’ support. My friends help me a lot though. (Non-binary/15/Panromantic Demisexual)
Story #1994
When I came out it was kinda awkward because I was just telling my friend stuff and eventually they wanted to talk about crushes. I just wanted to spill the beans. It gets so tiring at a point. Anyway, they talked about their crush and then I told mine, who’s the same gender as mine assigned because I’m not out genderly(??) and they were pretty surprised. Supportive though 🙂 (NB/15/Demi)
Story #1702
When I came out it was to a guy I was dming on a social media account. We had legit just met and I was like, “Uh hey… Can I tell ya smt?” He said sure and then I told him that he was the first person to know I was bi. Which I realize I am not now. Basically I’m super queer and out on the internet and really casual about it. But irl, heck no. I ain’t ready for that crap. (F/Demisexual)
Story #1668
When I came out, it was to a guy I’d been texting for a while. I’d told him I was bi and he was cool with it. A couple months later I read this article about sexualities and genders. I realized there was something else that represented me better. And I also learned the difference between romantically and sexually attracted. (16/Panromantic demisexual)
Story #1617
When I came out, I was 15 and it was to my girlfriends. They took it really well and that gave me the eventual courage to come out to my mom at 16. She said I was confused because of the company I kept, but she accepted it. I still feel a sense of dysphoria, but I’ll survive because I’m proud to be a demi+pan!
~A Pan-tastic Girl
Story #1383
When I came out at 14, my mom said it was just a phase. A few months later after suffering a sexual tragedy against myself from a male, my mom asked me if I was straight. She was already disappointed in what had happened this summer and disappointed in my sexuality so I lied and told her I was. To this day, I haven’t tried to come out again. (F/17/Pan/demisexual)