When I came out I texted my best friend when I was first questioning, and then followed up a few days later and told them that I definitely am bi. A few months later, I told my parents over text with a bi frog. My brother was at a sleepaway camp; I think he found out when he got his phone back / through my jokes. A few more months after that I realized I am gender fluid and literally chose my name on the walk to school. I told one of my friends who is kinda the center of the friend group and probolby a few others directly but most of them realized through the trickle of info about gender/sexuality. I haven’t come out to my parents as a gender bender yet but I plan to… in the next few years. Kinda scared but it’s fiiiiiiiiiiiinnnnnnnneeeeee. Anyway I think I’m polyamorous and haven’t felt the need to tell people. If it comes up, my friends will learn something new about me. (Genderfluid/gender bender/13/Bisexual and probably polyamorous)
Story #2432
When I came out, I told my friends and parents as soon as I realized, which took me about 3 years to fully understand. I texted my best friend and I asked her, if I’m dreaming about kissing a girl and going out with her, I probably like her, right? She said yes, so I went downstairs and told my parents, who were very accepting (my mom is bi too). There are sometimes people at school who ask if I’m gay, and sometimes I don’t know how to answer, so I stare at them blankly, but I’m working on telling more people, and so far I’ve told several close friends who have all been very supportive. I’m so grateful I am surrounded by such loving people! (F/13/Bisexual)
Story #2410
When I came out, I was back home with my parents for the Christmas break, and we were watching a comedy. At one point I asked, “Would it make a difference if someone I loved was a guy or a girl?” The answer was a simple “of course not.” I thought there would be some sort of euphoria, or pride that I finally had the courage to come out… but it was just… calm. Calm and certainty. This moment of realisation, the knowledge that I could finally be who I truly am, was much more powerful that any other feeling I could experience. Now, armed with this calm, quiet, yet so powerful feeling that I can finally be who I am meant to be, the face looks brighter — next year, and all the years to come. (M/19/Bi)
Story #2403
When I came out, it was the most out of context thing because I was with a friend on the bleachers, and I was on my phone looking at my second Instagram account that I use for myself where I have my correct pronouns. I was editing my profile when my friend took my phone and saw what I was doing and he was like, “Are you trans?” And I was like, “Yeah.” He was really supportive, though, but it was awkward because he was shouting and there were a lot of people there. (FtM/15/Bi)
Story #2398
When I came out I was 12 (7th grade). I had come out as lesbian to my mom; she was accepting of it as she was bisexual. On the other hand, my grandma thought I was too young to actually know. As time went on, when I got into the 8th grade, I wasn’t very happy with my gender. I never wanted to say I was a boy cause I felt it was wrong to think so I said I was nonbinary. I recently came out to my mom as trans and she’s trying to get used to it. I’m still trying to figure it all out, though. (M/15/Transgender/bisexual)
Story #2396
When I came out, I was already 41. My family has always known me to be boy crazy, so telling them I also liked women was incredibly shocking. I told them I wanted to live my life authentically, which meant dating someone that I matched with regardless of how they identify. They have been supportive, but it would have been so much harder if I didn’t have the support of my closest friends. (F/41/Bisexual)
Story #2389
When I came out I was 13. I came out to my best friend of almost 10 years over discord. I said – Just so u know, i’m bi, ur the first person I told. He texted me back about half an hour later saying – proud of you for having courage to tell someone, even if it’s only me. One of the best things ever. You don’t have to come out to your parents first. It doesn’t even have to be someone you know. Maybe text your number neighbor? Their reaction can fill you with the bravery to tell your parents or a friend. (F/13/Bisexual)
Story #2376
When I came out I was 12. It wasn’t my choice and my parents didn’t support me. My friends and aunts do, though 🙂 (F/15/Bi)
Story #2371
When I came out I was on this app where messaging people was available — mind you that the app was 18+ and I was definitely not that age — and on that app I was talking to a girl, yk in a more of a friendship kinda way, knowing she was way older, which is besides the point; I know now it was really dumb now. But my mom found these messages. I panicked and thought, “Well, she’s gonna ask something about me messaging a girl,” so I just went “Well, now is a good time to tell you I’m bisexual.” And well, her reaction was not good, and I had a breakdown, so now I don’t bring it up, but hopefully in the future I’ll be comfortably out to her. (F/Bisexual)
Story #2369
When I came out to everybody I was living with at the time was on National Coming Out Day. We were eating dinner, I just said it was National Coming Out Day and said I was bi. They didn’t really say much, but there were a few friendly jokes thrown around. I think overall they don’t mind, though. At first everybody acted like I just liked boys, but know I think they have come to normalize the fact that I’m bi. Before that day I just made subtle comments that indicated that I might like girls. They also knew that I liked a girl, but didn’t really know I was bi. (F/14/Bisexual)