When I came out I was 13. I came out to my best friend of almost 10 years over discord. I said – Just so u know, i’m bi, ur the first person I told. He texted me back about half an hour later saying – proud of you for having courage to tell someone, even if it’s only me. One of the best things ever. You don’t have to come out to your parents first. It doesn’t even have to be someone you know. Maybe text your number neighbor? Their reaction can fill you with the bravery to tell your parents or a friend. (F/13/Bisexual)
Story #2388
When I came out at 13 my brother and my cousin were the first people I told. My mom didn’t believe me at first. We were arguing in my room about something really stupid and she said, “Once you get a husband…” and I was so full of that husband and boyfriend thing so I shouted back, “What if I will have a girlfriend?” And she looked at me shockingly and then said, “What do you mean?” So I explained to her that I am bi but she didn’t believe me because she thought it’s just a phase and because it’s “trendy”. In the next 2 years I came out twice more but whenever we start that talk she pretends like she doesn’t care and is kind of supporting but I know that she secretly hopes it’s just a phase. I am pan now but I tell her I am bi cuz it’s easier to explain lol. (F/16/Pansexual)
Story #2387
When I came out I was 13. My friend and I were playing truth or dare and she asked me if I could date anyone in our school who would it be? I answered by telling her that I was Asexual Grey Panromantic. She was cool with it and just asked me what that is. After I told her she proceeded to tell me about her lesbian friend, so I don’t think she completely understood. I haven’t told anyone else yet. I am also yet to come out as genderfluid. I think my family will take it well because I have a gay uncle and a trans uncle too. (Genderfluid/13/Asexual grey panromantic)
Story #2386
When I came out my friends were joking around, guessing who they thought would be a top/bottom. They got around to guessing me and I said, “How about neither?” and that was how I came out as ace 🙂
Story #2385
When I came out I was 13. I texted my friend, telling him that I was gay, and I remember just hoping and praying for a good reaction because I was drowning in internalized homophobia and just wanted someone to tell me it was okay. Now I’m out to a total of 5 people and will be out to my parents soon. (Gender non-conforming woman/15/Gay/lesbian)
Story #2384
When I came out to my friends they all asked what it meant, and after I explained what aro/ace is and what it means, they didn’t make a big deal about it, they just shrugged their shoulders and said “okay”. I don’t know why but that felt like the best outcome I could’ve gotten: no denial, no overflowing support. It felt absolutely wonderful when it happened, because that’s how I thought of it in my head. Jump out of your shell if you are under 14, because as long as you aren’t in the popular group, it will work out fine. (M/13/Ace)
Story #2383
When I came out I thought I was bisexual, but I was wrong. Later I found out I was non-binary after being called girl too much; I tried he/him pronouns, but didn’t like them, so I used they/them and loved it. After I found out I was asexual, then aromantic, but that’s half wrong. Now, I’ve developed a crush on my friend after us being friends for a while. I have only told my cousins this, all of this. I don’t know how to tell others about me being demiromantic after thinking I’m aromantic for a full year, and I’m questioning if this friend will find out it’s them, so for now it’s just with my cousins. (Enby/14/Demiromantic Asexual)
Story #2382
When I came out, I had written a letter to my mom and she showed it to my dad. Then we had a long talk about puberty and stuff and I guess they were supportive, but later my mom said some pretty nasty things about being non-binary, but I think she’ll get over it. Someday, she will be okay with my identity. (Non-binary/11)
Story #2381
When I came out everything crashed. This summer my mom sent me to my grandmother’s house and renovated my room. She found my diary and looked through it, (surprise, surprise) finding out I had a girlfriend. She confronted me about it, and told me she loved me (didn’t say “for who I was”) and says I need to give her my phone password because she won’t snoop again. (F/16/Lesbian)
Story #2380
When I came out to my friends, some accepted me and some didn’t. I got bullied a lot and still am. Although it’s hard to be in a negative place, I managed. I’ve had two partners and they were toxic, but now I’ve found the perfect partner and she is uber supportive and kind. My sister was next, and she and I are the misfits of the family so she has pretty much accepted me. My brothers and parents I still have to deal with, and I have to wait till I’m older but soon I will and we will see if they react badly. Coming out is scary, especially if you have religious parents/toxic parents, but if you try and fail keep trying and keep the people you love close! (Genderfluid/12/Gay/poly)