When I came out to one of my best friends, it was simpler than I expected. She had asked me if I was straight and I’d said no. She asked what I identified as and I told her I didn’t know, even though I most definitely knew. I waited until I felt more comfortable to tell her that I identified as pan. She was identifying as bisexual at the time, but my coming out to her made her realize that she preferred the label pansexual as well. (F/Pansexual)
Story #2433
When I came out, my little sister was the first person I told. I was kind of nervous because I thought she would accept me but I wasn’t sure. I had been talking about the LGBTQ+ community around her, letting her get used to the idea and seeing if she was cool with it. One day, I decided to go for it. I told her I identified as pansexual, and she thought for a really long time. The question she generated in that amount of time was: “Does that mean you’re non-binary too?” I laughed, and I explained to her that I’m not non-binary, only pansexual. She seemed to understand everything, and I’m happy that she turned out to be an ally of the LGBTQ+ community. She even makes small LGBTQ+ related jokes sometimes, just to make me smile. I couldn’t have asked for a more accepting sister. (F/13/Pansexual)
Story #2432
When I came out, I told my friends and parents as soon as I realized, which took me about 3 years to fully understand. I texted my best friend and I asked her, if I’m dreaming about kissing a girl and going out with her, I probably like her, right? She said yes, so I went downstairs and told my parents, who were very accepting (my mom is bi too). There are sometimes people at school who ask if I’m gay, and sometimes I don’t know how to answer, so I stare at them blankly, but I’m working on telling more people, and so far I’ve told several close friends who have all been very supportive. I’m so grateful I am surrounded by such loving people! (F/13/Bisexual)
Story #2431
When I came out to my brother last year, I was in the middle of a mental breakdown. I was shaking and crying in my bed and couldn’t seem to stop. My brother saw me and asked, “What’s wrong, sis?” and I went around the topic, until he finally asked “Is it… about your gender?” I paused. I was super terrified (and still am every time I rethink about it). Since my parents are SUPER TRANSPHOBIC (I mean, making anti-trans jokes every day) I thought he’d be the same way, but then he said, “Show ’em who’s boss, bro” and walked away. To this day, I still don’t know if he meant that or not… (Transmasc/14/Bisexual/demi-boy)
Story #2430
When I came out as genderfluid to my bff, she was really supportive. She’s bi/ace/demigirl as well so she was great about it. I’m coming out to my parents today… wish me luck. (Genderfluid/M/12/Pansexual)
Story #2429
When I came out I was 20/21 and my parents were very accepting of me. But I have friends who are very supportive of me and call me by my gender correct name, which is cool. I am now known as Jay. (M/42/FtM)
Story #2428
When I came out to my Bi best friend recently, Ze was really supportive! I am planning to come out to my other two best friends on my birthday. They all support the LGBTQIAP+ community, but there’s a few of my other best friends who I don’t think I’ll ever come out to, because they’d be really weird about it. Just a piece of advice, don’t feel like you have to come out to anyone (at all). The only person you owe it to is yourself. (Demigirl/Maybe panromantic or greysexual)
Story #2427
When I came out I was like 13 and both me and my best friend had been questioning our genders (we both decided on enby at the time) and we filled out a little pronoun/term paper and I said yes to he/him. a couple months later I told them I was trans (ftm) and they just said they knew it. They were super supportive and still are, and they continue to ask for my pronouns a lot since I’m still kinda figuring myself out. (Male/enby?/15/idk like gay ig)
Story #2426
When I came out, it was a roller-coaster year and a half, because my identity changed several times, first Pansexual and Nonbinary, then Bigender and Pansexual, then Bigender and Panromantic-Asexual. However, not just my gender and sexuality was a roller-coaster; my pronouns were too. I went from They/Them to He/They, then back to They/Them. Luckily my name journey was easy, I just chose a neutral version of my birth name. Anyways, to all of you out there questioning yourselves, the process is a journey, but it is worth it in the end. (Bigender/19/Panromantic-Asexual)
Story #2425
When I came out it was to a close friend. They proceeded to tell me they’re genderfluid. Now we’re super close. To everyone out there, find your one. (Nonbinary/12/Panromantic)