When I came out I texted my best friend when I was first questioning, and then followed up a few days later and told them that I definitely am bi. A few months later, I told my parents over text with a bi frog. My brother was at a sleepaway camp; I think he found out when he got his phone back / through my jokes. A few more months after that I realized I am gender fluid and literally chose my name on the walk to school. I told one of my friends who is kinda the center of the friend group and probolby a few others directly but most of them realized through the trickle of info about gender/sexuality. I haven’t come out to my parents as a gender bender yet but I plan to… in the next few years. Kinda scared but it’s fiiiiiiiiiiiinnnnnnnneeeeee. Anyway I think I’m polyamorous and haven’t felt the need to tell people. If it comes up, my friends will learn something new about me. (Genderfluid/gender bender/13/Bisexual and probably polyamorous)
Story #2438
When I came out, my friends accepted me and actually used my real pronouns/corrected themselves midway! My family doesn’t know yet, and it hurts a little every time they misgender me, use she/her pronouns, etc., but I know I’ll get through it! To people who are going through similar experiences — hang on there! One day you’ll find the people who will accept you for who you are. (Agender/AroAce)
Story #2437
When I came out it was online. My online friend asked me if we can voice rev and I said sure. I didn’t know what to do because I am FTM trans and my voice sounds like a girl (I haven’t started T yet) and I was struggling on what to do. I tried to deepen my voice but I was afraid it wouldn’t work out and I accidentally blurted out, “Ah sh*t” because I thought I was on mute but sadly I wasn’t. I immediately left the call. I was panicking out, then a minute later he said, “Your voice sounds like a girl. Are you secretly a girl or nah?” and I went like, “Oh f*ck I went way way wrong,” so I just told him that I was trans. This is possibility the dumbest way I came out by accident. (Male FtM/13)
Story #2436
When I came out, I was scared and excited. I felt as if I had found my true self, and realized how the world would react. I buried my sorrows in fake crushes on girls, and ate a lot. I was self conscious because this was after the pandemic (come on, we all gained at least 10 pounds). I found that a mask helped me hide myself, so I wore one everywhere, even after Omicron. Finally, I lost all the weight, got fit, actually too thin, I’m underweight now, and gained strength. I met my boyfriend at a comic shop. He asked for my number, but my parents were restrictive of me, so I only had a computer, so I got his e-mail. He eventually asked me out, and still loves me deeply, and I him. I slowly came out to many close friends and they all support me and frequently ask about my guy. (M/13/Gay and beautiful)
Story #2435
When I came out I came out to my best friends first. They were really supportive of it and supported me all the way. I came out to my parents the other day; I had someone bring up the conversation because I didn’t know what to say. My mom said she already knew I was lesbian but she wasn’t gonna call me by my changed name or pronouns. She said that she was not gonna refer to me as non-binary, which really hurt. (Non-binary/14/Lesbian)
Story #2434
When I came out to one of my best friends, it was simpler than I expected. She had asked me if I was straight and I’d said no. She asked what I identified as and I told her I didn’t know, even though I most definitely knew. I waited until I felt more comfortable to tell her that I identified as pan. She was identifying as bisexual at the time, but my coming out to her made her realize that she preferred the label pansexual as well. (F/Pansexual)
Story #2433
When I came out, my little sister was the first person I told. I was kind of nervous because I thought she would accept me but I wasn’t sure. I had been talking about the LGBTQ+ community around her, letting her get used to the idea and seeing if she was cool with it. One day, I decided to go for it. I told her I identified as pansexual, and she thought for a really long time. The question she generated in that amount of time was: “Does that mean you’re non-binary too?” I laughed, and I explained to her that I’m not non-binary, only pansexual. She seemed to understand everything, and I’m happy that she turned out to be an ally of the LGBTQ+ community. She even makes small LGBTQ+ related jokes sometimes, just to make me smile. I couldn’t have asked for a more accepting sister. (F/13/Pansexual)
Story #2432
When I came out, I told my friends and parents as soon as I realized, which took me about 3 years to fully understand. I texted my best friend and I asked her, if I’m dreaming about kissing a girl and going out with her, I probably like her, right? She said yes, so I went downstairs and told my parents, who were very accepting (my mom is bi too). There are sometimes people at school who ask if I’m gay, and sometimes I don’t know how to answer, so I stare at them blankly, but I’m working on telling more people, and so far I’ve told several close friends who have all been very supportive. I’m so grateful I am surrounded by such loving people! (F/13/Bisexual)
Story #2431
When I came out to my brother last year, I was in the middle of a mental breakdown. I was shaking and crying in my bed and couldn’t seem to stop. My brother saw me and asked, “What’s wrong, sis?” and I went around the topic, until he finally asked “Is it… about your gender?” I paused. I was super terrified (and still am every time I rethink about it). Since my parents are SUPER TRANSPHOBIC (I mean, making anti-trans jokes every day) I thought he’d be the same way, but then he said, “Show ’em who’s boss, bro” and walked away. To this day, I still don’t know if he meant that or not… (Transmasc/14/Bisexual/demi-boy)
Story #2430
When I came out as genderfluid to my bff, she was really supportive. She’s bi/ace/demigirl as well so she was great about it. I’m coming out to my parents today… wish me luck. (Genderfluid/M/12/Pansexual)