When I Came Out

When I came out, it was to my brothers. I told them I was bisexual and one of them said, “Make sure your girlfriend is cute.” A year later, I came out to them as a lesbian by playing them “The Gay Song.” They are still accepting, and I couldn’t be happier! I have yet to come out to most friends and my parents.

When I came out, I was 49 years old. I’d been married twice, never happily, because in the back of my befuddled mind, I really loved girls. I came out to lesbian friends first, to my three sons, two (out of five) brothers, and my parents next. After all these years I no longer carry the burden of hiding in the closet. I plan on living loud and proud. Finally.

When I came out to my real dad the whole day I was crying. I was thinking to myself Is he gonna accept me for who I am or is he gonna push me away. Well I got the balls to tell him and he told me, “Yes you are my baby girl and regardless if you straight or gay I will accept you for you.” :’)

When I came out, it was almost two weeks ago. I was sitting in a car with two guy friends when suddenly one of them said he didn’t know anyone who was gay only two bisexuals … Then I told him “now you do” both were like “really?” then just “cool” and the conversation continued like before. They’re really awesome and I was nervous because I haven’t known them for so long 🙂

When I came out to my parents they were nothing but positive and loving. After that I spent the rest of my day driving to all of my friends’ houses on a sort of coming out marathon. I have never felt more loved; I should have done it sooner.

When I came out, I was 14. I told one of my best friends at school that I had big news, that I am a lesbian. She just said, “Okay,” like it didn’t matter, and then, “So what’s the big news?” I was so happy by how she took it I started crying and gave her a hug. The next day I told another friend, and within two months every single one of my friends had accepted it and still love me for who I am.

When I came out to an extremely conservative friend I was really terrified of her possible reaction. But when I told her, she got really embarrassed and she said that she was sorry if she had ever said any homophobic comments. 5 months after, she admits that I changed her mind and she’s got another point of view now.

When I came out to one of my best friends, he just listened silently and then he said, “Well, I guess you’re not going to like the Playboy magazine we bought you for your birthday.” Then I laughed and hugged him.

When I came out, I was so terrified that I had my best friend with me holding my hand while I was coming out to my father over the phone (I live in a different state). He was silent for a second, and told me it didn’t change a thing, that he loved me, and that he was glad that I trusted him enough to tell him. He even apologized to me in case he had ever said something that made me afraid to come out to him.

When I came out, it was to a friend I trusted. We were at an athletics stadium. My friend and I went alone to do long jump, when I cornered her, and I simply told her: “I’m bi.” She asked me what it meant and I told her. For a minute, she just stood there; it was the scariest minute ever. She then told me it’s ok, and asked who and I told her, and she said she was still my friend and would never leave me.