When I Came Out

When I came out about a year ago I got completely humiliated and bullied for it. I told the one person I trusted at the time and she told pretty much everyone. So I pretended I was joking and it’s taken me up to today to admit to not only myself but to a group of my friends. I am 14 and the friends I am around now are really supportive this time. I still haven’t told any of my family and I do not plan to until I leave home but I feel so relieved for coming out again and it goes to show that the person I told first wasn’t a true friend and true friends accept you for who you are….

When I came out, it was only to my best friend. After crying for an hour, I texted her. After I came out, she called me and we cried for another hour. The next day as soon as she saw me she hugged me. She then asked if I found her attractive. I said yes and she just smiled and hugged me. She is completely straight, but loves that I’m open with my feelings.

When I came out the first time it was a choice. I had told my best girl friend I would go straight for her if I could, because she means that much to me. I was incredibly ecstatic about it, literally jumping in my chair when I emailed that to her. But then my mom saw the emails, and she sort of forced me to come out to her. She accepts me, but I still resent that moment, because I didn’t choose that time.

When I came out to my best friend, it involved the words “Surprise! I like girls, too!” He was really cool with it – and ended up admitting sometimes he felt that way about men himself. I’m honored he trusted me enough to come out, and I feel so much lighter.

When I came out to my mom, she told me that she would never turn her back on me. She said she loved me, and that I’m still her son.

When I came out to my mom and dad, my mother started sobbing and my dad wondered aloud why I didn’t keep it to myself. They left me alone in my room crying and I think I’ve made a huge mistake. They said they still love me but I don’t think things will ever be the same. But I had to do it.

When I came out my parents said they still loved me but told me I could not act upon my feelings or show them. With contradicting feelings I moved out and in with my girlfriend. We broke up, things got awkward, and now all I want to do is start a new chapter in my life with university.

When I came out to my best friend (and crush) I was really scared because he didn’t really say anything and it was quiet. But later that night he texted me saying he didn’t care, it wasn’t my fault, and even told me he didn’t care if I checked him out. While I did decline, it was one of the greatest feelings ever.

When I came out I was 17. It was a forced coming out to my dad because someone told him about my girlfriend. He still believes he failed as a parent but is slowly coming around to accept me for who I am.

When I came out to my parents it was a complete accident. My girlfriend broke up with me a week before and I was heartbroken. I had told my parents how stupid my “friend” was and told them the entire story from the third person point of view. On my way out the door, my dad said, “Why do you care so much? It’s not like you were going out with her……*blank stare*…..right?…” I was NOT prepared for that and froze up. He became extremely awkward as did my mother. I said, “Welp…don’t think too hard about that one, you might hurt yourself” and got out the door as fast as I could.