When I Came Out

When I came out five months ago my entire family was supportive except for my mom. I don’t understand it though. I have a gay brother and gay cousin that she fully supports but she disowned me completely. I haven’t spoken to her since. I had to struggle through the rejection and get to a point within myself that allowed me to realize I am not a bad person. I’m not. There are worse things I could do than be a lesbian.

When I came out to my best friend, she told me I wasn’t serious, I was trying to find myself, it couldn’t be true. Slowly, after ten years of a long friendship, she stopped talking to me. I was so lost. I understood later that she was afraid I could fall in love with her. And some time after that, I learned that she was gay too. Maybe I’ll see her again.

When I came out, my father surprised me with my girlfriend. I was very close to him at the time, copying everything he did. He was my role model, but when he saw me kissing her that day, his eyes changed. He left the house some weeks after. Never admitted it was because of me. Now, we almost never talk to each other. I miss him terribly.

When I came out as bisexual I was shocked about how supporting people were. I remember holding it back for 12 years and finally felt like a person after hiding for so long. When I came out I began a new life.

When I came out a few months ago at the age of 56, I told my family, friends and kids. They all were very supportive and I have been free from the bondage of my closet ever since. Just wish I had done this decades ago.

When I came out I was prayed over and put into therapy by my family. I still struggle with depression because of that and talking to them as a college student but I have my amazing partner to stand by me no matter what.

When I came out to my best friend I sent her a message on FB and she sent me one back saying seriously, and I said no with a sarcastic face. I then just rang her up and had a good cry, and she still loves me as her best friend no matter what. Two down, rest of the school to go…

When I came out to my best friend, she didn’t believe me. The day before she was hating on the gays in government class, saying, “Gays shouldn’t be able to get married. It’s Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve.” When I told her I was a lesbian she didn’t believe me, but finally accepted it and we laugh about it all of the time. We all knew I was gay before I even realized it.

When I came out to my best friend he was shocked for about 5 seconds and then he started teasing me! To my other best friend/roommate I told him about my crush on him… and he’s been my biggest supporter to date. A year later I came out on Facebook.

When I came out to my sister she was going through a rough patch herself. She shared her own doubts about her sexuality. It took a week for her to accept it fully and she became a great support. Last month she committed suicide resulting from her abusive relationship with her boyfriend. I’m still to come out to my father.