When I Came Out

When I came out as a lesbian, I was teasing my best guy friend about being in love with another guy and he told me he thought he was gay in Class 3. So I decided to that it was a good time to come out and so did he. Never been closer since.

When I came out my mom cried. Not because she was upset I’m a lesbian, but because she didn’t want me to have to deal with all the hate and discrimination I was sure to get. I’m glad she accepted me.

When I came out as a lesbian to this boy I almost dated I thought he would hate me. This boy accepted me and cares about me and who I really am. I’m scared to tell my mom and brother for fear they’ll hate me. I am a lesbian and I’m proud to say it.

When I came out I was 21 and the first person I had to come out to was myself. I’d thought about it for years but it was only about 6 months before that I didn’t immediately dismiss it. I texted one of my best friends so that I couldn’t immediately backtrack from it and it later transpired that he was bi. Coming out for me was part of a long process of gaining confidence and self-acceptance. I still haven’t come out to my parents but I hope to soon.

When I came out to my sister, we were on our way to a basketball game. On the bus, she sat next to me and I began to shake. She asked what was wrong and I just showed her a picture of me and this girl that I’ve been crushing on since August. I was crying so hard and ruined my cheer uniform, but she looked up and smiled and said, “You’re my sister; I’ve known forever.”

When I came out alongside my girlfriend to one of her friends, the friend came out to us, too. She said she found us both beautiful and that she had been wishing either of us was gay since she met us, and congratulated us.

When I came out to my parents, I was sucking face. With another guy. They walked in on us in a closet and well…. they found out.

When I came out my mom was like, “Yes, I knew it!” I wasn’t shocked that they–my family–were okay with me liking other girls. My family is all about acceptance, and I knew they’d be completely okay with it, but it still took me about 5 years to “officially” come out. (I’m 17, but I’ve undoubtedly known since I was 12.)

When I came out, officially a couple of months ago, my family basically shrugged their shoulders and said it didn’t matter because if I liked other girls, it was still a part of me, and they loved me as a whole. Some friends were shocked, while the majority said it made sense. I’ve known I’ve been into girls since age 12 when girls start to crush on guys, and my mom was waiting for me to to be comfortable to “officially” come out. I was lucky and I hope the best for others to have someone that accepts them completely like my family did.

When I came out I didn’t know it. My father found a paper with a list of people’s initials I had a crush on. After I lied about the names on the list he pulled the other list out with the names that go to the initials. After a long talk they say they accept me but their actions prove different. Now it’s one of those family secrets no one speaks about.