When I Came Out

When I came out to my closest friend, the first person I ever came out to, I had a pan with me. She walked into the room while I sat there with a pan on my head. She gave me an odd look, I said, “I really didn’t want you to find out this way but…. I’m pansexual”. We still laugh about it sometimes. Now I just need to come out to my parents, eek!

When I came out my family was soo accepting, all but my mother. It took her a while and gave my relationship hardship. But through it all my significant other and her are now practically best friends. As for us, we are going on 3 years. Still strong!

When I came out to my parents, they started asking me so many questions. I felt like I could cry for no real reason. Then my mom came into my room and told me I was brave. I knew it was all going to be okay.

When I came out to my parents as transgender, they told me not to come out to anyone else for a multitude of reasons, one of them being that people wouldn’t accept me. When I came out to my choir class today, everyone cheered for me and said nothing changed and that they still loved me.

When I came out I told my sister first. I’m 32 and had been dating girls for as long as I can remember. Realizing you are gay a little later in life has thrown people off a bit because suddenly now I want to date men. My sister gave me a huge hug and told me how brave I was, and that I can finally live my life as it was intended. It’s never too late.

When I came out to my best friend, he avoided me for a week but then grew supportive. When I came out to my parents I almost ended up being sent to Russia, and have been back in the closet for the last 5 years.

When I came out to my best friends about my pansexuality (and my crush on a Dutch friend I’d met a while back), I was immediately met with grins and howls. It felt amazing knowing they didn’t mind and totally accepted me. They even encouraged me to come out to my mom, and it went great — If only I could stop them from their constant teasing.

When I came out to my sister, she was extremely upset because I wouldn’t be able to have children. She told me I must be going through a phase and that she didn’t want me being this way. Less than an hour later, she became accepting, and we hugged it out.

When I came out it inspired one of my other friends to come out, which is an amazing feeling. Be a role model; don’t be afraid to be who you are.

When I came out as bi to one of my co-workers and friends she told me that the “mother” in her already knew so she wasn’t that surprised by it. She also said that, while she was confused about me being bi, she had sensed I was possibly gay and that she accepted that if who I am is bi then so be it. It truly means the world that I have her acceptance.