When I Came Out

When I came out it was on Facebook the day before New Years. I got a lot of support and not one bit of hate. I can openly say to everyone that I want to be a girl and I’m not ashamed of that anymore. I can’t wait to transition.

When I came out publicly as bisexual I posted the same photo on Twitter and Facebook announcing that I am bisexual but was scared to come out. It’s been only about 50 hours since I did but the response has been overwhelmingly positive.

When I came out it was at a banquet/memorial service for my grandfather. My aunt, uncle, parents and others were having a conversation about the likelihood that my 2nd cousin was a transgender male and it was completely positive. Eventually my sister and mom (who know I’m bi) asked me if I wanted to say anything. I said only if my sister initiates it so she did and then I announced what I am. My aunt and uncle said they were fine with it as long as I am happy and all that me being bi meant was my genes were a little different than others. My cousin said it just means I might bring home a guy instead of a girl for Christmas.

When I came out to my parents as bi, they were overflowing with support. We hugged. I cried. I couldn’t be happier.

When I came out to my best friend, he came out too. I was so excited!! We are the only out ones in our grade.

When I came out it wasn’t because I wanted to. In class we had talked about things that upset us in our society and homophobia came up. I cried after that class and then that evening a friend texted me asking if I was a lesbian. She was very accepting but we only talked about it once so it doesn’t feel like a lot has changed. I’m not confident enough to openly say who I am.

When I came out to my new group of friends at work, they laughed. Ends up all four of us are queer, the only out ones where we work. I guess the queer just attract each other.

When I came out I was so nervous, so the only opportunity I had was to do it over messages. When I finally pressed the button I was so happy to get such a supportive reply from my best friend. But now that I have said it, I feel like my best friend doesn’t want to talk to me anymore and I really need someone to talk to. I just don’t have the confidence to go up to her and say “hi” anymore…

When I came out as a lesbian to my boyfriend of 4 years, he couldn’t believe it. I probably would have figured it out sooner if it wasn’t long distance… but it also probably would have been harder to leave. We tried to remain friends, but he refused to accept my feelings and this eroded the friendship. Some of us only figure out who we are after knowing who we aren’t.

When I came out to my mom, she was more supportive than I could’ve ever imagined. It was the scariest thing I ever had to do because my family is pretty homophobic. After we talked about it, she read my letter and told me nothing had changed. Before I left, she told me I was still the same bright girl as before and said, “You’re going to have a good life, hun.”