When I came out to my dad at the age of 17 I told him that I believed I was gay although I had always been attracted to all genders. I had chosen to tell him as we travelled home from a gig in the back of a gay friend’s van, which was dark as it hadn’t any windows, so I felt protected by not being able to see his reaction. Sadly and humiliatingly, my dad didn’t speak to me or look me in the eye for 3 days. He sought reassurance from his lesbian acquaintances and I just pretended nothing had ever happened. Things at home were excruciatingly awkward for a while but he found relief when I found a boyfriend. I was 18 when I realised that I was bisexual and 36 when I claimed pansexual as my identity! (F/43/Pansexual)