Story #2260

When I came out to my mom I was maybe 15 or 16, and I just walked into her room one night and told her, “Mom, I have something very important to tell you. I’m never going to have kids. I’m never going to have sex, because I’m ace.” And obviously she was like, “You’re too young to know, you’ve never dated anyone before, it’s just a phase, you’ll find that special someone later in life, you don’t have to worry about it right now,” and all that. And I was just crying as I tried to explain to her that it wasn’t a phase and that I had been distressed for some time, but that I was into guys, just I couldn’t emotionally comprehend sexual attraction the way everyone else did. Like, ya it made sense logically, but other than finding people aesthetically pleasing, I just wasn’t ever *attracted* to anyone. She needed some time to think about it, but she’s pretty accepting now. My high school friends honestly knew before I did; they’d always ask me, “Oh, you’re ace, right?” even while I was questioning, so coming out to them was really easy. (F/19/Heteroromantic asexual)