When I came out as a lesbian it was at the age of forty to my eight-year-old daughter. I was talking to her about different kinds of families and people and she asked if I was gay. I didn’t answer for a few minutes. I’d never really thought about my sexuality but suddenly everything in my life and all my confusion made sense. I told her that “Mommy IS gay” and asked if her if that was okay. She said it was so long as I “still bought her toys.”