When I Came Out

When I came out to my sister… even though she is supportive and liberal I was extremely scared. I went outside and wrote her a letter and sent it impulsively. I felt like my body was shutting down, I’ve never cried so much. I got nauseous, and my hands clenched as hard as they could. She came outside where I was crying and gave me a hug and told me that she loves me no matter what and now she loves me even more. She’s the first one with more to come.

When I came out, my mom and I were talking about sexual/romantic orientation already in the car. Of course, she asked me what my orientation was. I answered, “What do you think?” and she replied gay/lesbian. Then she just told me to remind her to go to the grocery. I honestly couldn’t be happier.

When I came out it was to my close friend then and my girlfriend now. She was talking about how she was definitely into girls and I felt an urge to tell her that I had also liked girls before. So I did. Now we are a couple and I love her. I haven’t come out to my family yet but a few of my friends know.

When I came out as gay, it was on National Coming Out day and my mom said, “Okay, anything else?” I walked out of her room. I told my sister, who already knew and is a lesbian herself and really helped me a lot. Still not fully out, will soon though.

When I came out, it was surprisingly with my parents. We were talking about life, work, and whatever, and I kind of blurted it out without thinking. My mom’s a by-the-book Christian and stepdad’s a Catholic, so the 1-hour long discussion of “you can’t be sure” and “what did I/we do wrong” was a buzzkill. I guess explaining myself to them made telling others way easy.

When I came out… I was in the car with my mom and we were going to the store, and we had just stopped in front of a red light and my hands were clamming up and I felt my heart racing. My throat closed and out of nowhere I blurted out, “Mom, I love women!” That’s when she told me that she knew the moment I was born that I was different. I don’t think I ever smiled so hard in my life. I’m grateful for a mom that understands.

When I came out as bi, it was actually in a rant about how I felt like committing suicide. I was getting all of that suicide stuff off my chest and I just decided to stop hiding my sexuality too. I shared the Google doc with 4 of my friends, and one of them came out as bi to me too. To this day, I have come out to a few more of my friends, but not my family yet.

When I came out I was so drunk. I told my best friend that I maybe was gay but still confused. I loved telling someone, but now I’m too afraid of talking to her about it sober. It’s so sad. I want to tell my twin sister too because she always jokes around saying I act gay and I know she already knows.

When I came out to my older brother (16 and 15), he was driving me to cheer. We were listening to tøp and I was dying to tell him. He asked me if I had something to say (he already kind of suspected), and I blurted out “I’m gay, Connor”. He was super, super supportive and said he was really excited to have a sister to talk about girls with (: ❤

When I came out I told my sister I had something to tell her, and she blurted out, “Oh my god you like girls!” When I told my mom she said, “Ya I know, I’ve known since you were in 5th grade. My dad said, “Hey now you can’t get pregnant, awesome,” and laughed. No one but me was surprised when I figured it out. Last week my friend told me I am pansexual, and finally, I truly understand myself.